When I started college, I was content having friends but studying 70% of the time and this worked. Gradually, naturally, I made new friends and ended up part of a close-knit group. Just to add, these were all boys with little intention of getting involved with girls.
I had a bit of a thing with a girl outside of college last year, and I spoke to one of these friends about it, but as it was outside college it didn't affect how much I saw my friends.
Now, we went away earlier this year and I met someone who I had a fling with abroad (who I didn't find particularly attractive), but I somehow let myself instigate something.) I brought this back home, (even though I told myself not to), and we tried it, she said it didn't work etc the usual stuff.
We argued a bit, but nothing that shouldn't have been sorted. I.e. she could have put equal effort in to be on good terms as friends.
Now, because I HATE stopping talking to people, I did my best to keep in touch, especially because she was now, losely, part of my existing friendship group. However, she doesn't speak to me, which I would be fine with if my friends weren't friends with her, but it now makes it more difficult.
This now might sound childish (bare in mind I'm 18), but be assured this isn't me. 2 of my friends took it upon themselves to speak behind my back about everything, when the events had nothing to do with them. I think coupled with the fact they haven't done anything with girls (which I don't measure anything on), they somehow wanted to prove nothing had happened, which I didn't understand why.
Now as this girl doesn't speak to me, and I now have no reason to speak to her myself, I would rather not speak to her at college either. However, my friends are engrossed in her, and they literally put her before me every time. It's been over a month this has been going on, and I've been spending more and more time away from them all, because I no longer feel comfortable around them and this girl, and even when it's just the boys it doesn't feel like it used to.
I know these won't be my friends forever, but should I make the decision to disjoint myself now? I've brought up my main issues with 2 friends, but they don't seem to care like I would expect from them.
I know I can't let any of this affect my A-levels so I hope some opinions can be provided on what to do. I care about a positive outcome, but I'm not sure how to achieve one
I had a bit of a thing with a girl outside of college last year, and I spoke to one of these friends about it, but as it was outside college it didn't affect how much I saw my friends.
Now, we went away earlier this year and I met someone who I had a fling with abroad (who I didn't find particularly attractive), but I somehow let myself instigate something.) I brought this back home, (even though I told myself not to), and we tried it, she said it didn't work etc the usual stuff.
We argued a bit, but nothing that shouldn't have been sorted. I.e. she could have put equal effort in to be on good terms as friends.
Now, because I HATE stopping talking to people, I did my best to keep in touch, especially because she was now, losely, part of my existing friendship group. However, she doesn't speak to me, which I would be fine with if my friends weren't friends with her, but it now makes it more difficult.
This now might sound childish (bare in mind I'm 18), but be assured this isn't me. 2 of my friends took it upon themselves to speak behind my back about everything, when the events had nothing to do with them. I think coupled with the fact they haven't done anything with girls (which I don't measure anything on), they somehow wanted to prove nothing had happened, which I didn't understand why.
Now as this girl doesn't speak to me, and I now have no reason to speak to her myself, I would rather not speak to her at college either. However, my friends are engrossed in her, and they literally put her before me every time. It's been over a month this has been going on, and I've been spending more and more time away from them all, because I no longer feel comfortable around them and this girl, and even when it's just the boys it doesn't feel like it used to.
I know these won't be my friends forever, but should I make the decision to disjoint myself now? I've brought up my main issues with 2 friends, but they don't seem to care like I would expect from them.
I know I can't let any of this affect my A-levels so I hope some opinions can be provided on what to do. I care about a positive outcome, but I'm not sure how to achieve one
Put the internet to work for you.
No comments:
Post a Comment