Hi All,
I'm in a big dilemma. Im 29 years old, married for exactly one year now. I met my husband in my apartment complex, he was my neighbour. We dated for 3 years before tying the knot in Jan 2014. We never had pre-marital sex, as I insisted on waiting till we get married. We did fool around a bit but not all the way. Now the problem is we still haven't consummated our marriage!!! Immediately after we got married, we both fell ill (severe flu) so by the time we recovered, I had to resume work and then it just never happened. Weekends, even if I try and make a move, he'll say he's either too tired or not really in the mood. I used to wear sexy lingerie but after being rejected on several occasions, I stopped trying. I know he's not gay because when we used to fool around initially he used to get turned on. It feels like a switch went off in his head and he doesn't long for sex at all.
I've tried talking to him to visit a sex therapist and get help but in his head he keeps putting it off saying he is attracted to me and the sex will happen. He feels we have too many fights ( as we have never lived together before we got married ) and that may have something to do with us not having sex.
Please help. I'm losing hope and now I've turned to prayer & god.
Leaving him is not an option because we both love each other and I cannot imagine my life without him.
I'm in a big dilemma. Im 29 years old, married for exactly one year now. I met my husband in my apartment complex, he was my neighbour. We dated for 3 years before tying the knot in Jan 2014. We never had pre-marital sex, as I insisted on waiting till we get married. We did fool around a bit but not all the way. Now the problem is we still haven't consummated our marriage!!! Immediately after we got married, we both fell ill (severe flu) so by the time we recovered, I had to resume work and then it just never happened. Weekends, even if I try and make a move, he'll say he's either too tired or not really in the mood. I used to wear sexy lingerie but after being rejected on several occasions, I stopped trying. I know he's not gay because when we used to fool around initially he used to get turned on. It feels like a switch went off in his head and he doesn't long for sex at all.
I've tried talking to him to visit a sex therapist and get help but in his head he keeps putting it off saying he is attracted to me and the sex will happen. He feels we have too many fights ( as we have never lived together before we got married ) and that may have something to do with us not having sex.
Please help. I'm losing hope and now I've turned to prayer & god.
Leaving him is not an option because we both love each other and I cannot imagine my life without him.
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