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[rant] Whats the deal with girls not answering on dating sites?
Ive been using dating sites for a few months because I dont get the opportunities to get out and meet people outside of work and im fed up of people not answering you on these sites after you spend a good 10-15 minutes thinking of a conversation starter... I mean im not americas next top model but at the same time ive chosen good photos and I think my profile is pretty decent..
Can any girls share some insight into your side of things, what kind of things do you look for on dating sites?
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question about website
Is there a link or anything I can click on to view threads that I've already commented in? I take a day or two away from the website and when i come back I can't remember which threads I posted in and might be something I want to respond to.
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How is my Ex over me so quickly?
Hey,
Basically, I broke up with my ex on Sunday because he continued to use a dating site behind my back. It absolutely broke my heart. We got into an argument so I left it for around 5 days before I text him again.
I told him he was a memory I will always cherish and that he was the first person I felt I connected to on a deep, emotional level. He text back saying he was going to sleep and would text me in the morning, he never did.
He's not bothered to contact me, and all over Facebook he's been adding new guys and liking their pictures etc. I have tried to come out of this as the bigger person, admitting to him there will always be a special place for him in my heart. He has just ignored my feelings and has carried on as though I was nothing to him.
He was the first person I fell in love with and my heart is completely shattered at the moment. He's kept me on Facebook but I have un-followed him as I can't bear to see his updates of how happy he is without me.
Any insight? Thanks for reading
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Attracted to the one that got away
When I was at university there's this extremely hot guy who seemed really attracted to me. I kind of feel he's one that got away because he dropped so many hints that he was interested in me, but I was too shy to reciprocate.
It looks like I might be meeting him for the first time in four years at a professional event in a few weeks. I just wonder if he will still be attracted to me.
If he is still attracted and he does try it on, I just wonder how to respond. I'm not a fast girl and also I will be with work colleagues, including my manager so I don't want to create a reputation for myself. I notice he's still single on fb
I want to recipriocate interest without 'pulling' in the physical sense.
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is this infidelity?
It all started when we were supposed to get a 5,000 tax return and he said we lost it to the government due to something from the past. It made no sense but i trusted him. Then he wants to talk to me about this car he wants which looks like a super deal so i say go ahead and get it. He leaves out the fact that he signed on for A 23% INTEREST RATE. Mind you i have excellent credit and could have bought it. Anyway, he confessed that we didn't actually owe the government anything he just wanted to take the money to out down on the car so i thought he got a better deal on it. Meanwhile we owe my dad 3,000 he graciously loaned us to close on our house and HE KNEW THATs WHAT THE MONEY WAS FOR and spent it anyway. It was a year ago and there hasnt been too many problems since but i am still so livid about it and angry. Its been over a year
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Barkeeper...step right down here, please...
After the week I've had, could you please set me up with a Cap'n & diet?
Thanks!
You da man!
Thanks!
You da man!
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Not sure I have the energy to go through this again...
I'm struggling with how to move forward with my wife. Here's the background. We have been together for 15 years, friends for 18 years, married for 12, and have three children (2, 6 & 9). About three years ago my wife struck up a relationship with a fellow from her work. They had an emotional affair (she said it was not physical, but was very attracted to him) with him. During this time she became pregnant with our third child. During her emotional affair our sex life heated up dramatically... She agreed to cut off all communication with the fellow and did (she gave me access to her email and accounts to monitor if I wanted). All seemed good in our relationship and with our family.
About 1 year ago I lost my job and we were forced to move out of company housing. Losing my job and housing put our family into a bit of a tailspin... It was tough on me and the family. My wife was able to apply for a job that was a promotion for her (more pay) and was located near her parents. We relocated there, living with her parents, and found some stability for our children with the local school & grandparents helps. I started consulting with many of the clients that I had worked with previously which required 3-4 days away each week. My wife started working 60+ hours a week, basically leaving before the kids got up and coming home just before there bedtime. This was stressful on the family and living in with the grandparents was stressful. My wife slipped into not having to take care of the kids, cleaning, cooking and really had no responsibility other than her job.
We decided to reduce the stress of living with her parents we would find house close to them to maintain the kids in school and still have some help from the grandparents. We did and moved in. I committed to reducing my time on the road and took over taking care of the family. I still consult and go on the road, but for shorter time periods. The Grandparents help while I'm gone. My wife stayed busy with work and doesn't help much with family/home matters. I can deal with this, but she started to become much more distant.
I discovered recently that she has been searching on the internet for information about a man she works with. Looking into polyamourous relationships (how to convince your partner it's a good idea). Flirts through texting and email with the person she is searching on the internet about (to the best of my knowledge their relationship has been confined to the work setting). Today I see that she has started emailing with the fellow she had an "emotional affair" with 3 years ago. She's distant to me, not around much, and sex with her feels like she's doing an unpleasant chore (she's not interested in spicing it up).
We've had a very difficult past year with lots of ups and downs. I've been depressed at times, but have also been pushing forward with life - trying to redefine myself outside of the job I lost (I really was wrapped up in it). I've put on weight and know that I'm not as attractive to her (I've been overweight most of my life), but am working on more exercise and getting bariatric surgery. There have been times when I haven't been as present as I probably should have been. I own that I'm not perfect...
Three years ago I "fought" for our relationship, it was hard but I found a counselor, talked openly and frankly with my wife, supported her by not leaving & doing my best not to judge. I'm struggling now because I feel like she is on the brink of having another affair and is not "present" with me. Mostly our interactions feel cold and mechanical, mundane. I love my wife and family, but don't think I have it in me to be the only carrying the relationship or the energy to "fight" for her. My reactionary side says confront her about her interactions with these two guys and talk about next steps in our relationship. Basically, if she is going to screw around again I'd like to leave beforehand. She can start dealing with the kids, home, and her work. I'm not sure how to move forward and am feeling the more flight than fight.
About 1 year ago I lost my job and we were forced to move out of company housing. Losing my job and housing put our family into a bit of a tailspin... It was tough on me and the family. My wife was able to apply for a job that was a promotion for her (more pay) and was located near her parents. We relocated there, living with her parents, and found some stability for our children with the local school & grandparents helps. I started consulting with many of the clients that I had worked with previously which required 3-4 days away each week. My wife started working 60+ hours a week, basically leaving before the kids got up and coming home just before there bedtime. This was stressful on the family and living in with the grandparents was stressful. My wife slipped into not having to take care of the kids, cleaning, cooking and really had no responsibility other than her job.
We decided to reduce the stress of living with her parents we would find house close to them to maintain the kids in school and still have some help from the grandparents. We did and moved in. I committed to reducing my time on the road and took over taking care of the family. I still consult and go on the road, but for shorter time periods. The Grandparents help while I'm gone. My wife stayed busy with work and doesn't help much with family/home matters. I can deal with this, but she started to become much more distant.
I discovered recently that she has been searching on the internet for information about a man she works with. Looking into polyamourous relationships (how to convince your partner it's a good idea). Flirts through texting and email with the person she is searching on the internet about (to the best of my knowledge their relationship has been confined to the work setting). Today I see that she has started emailing with the fellow she had an "emotional affair" with 3 years ago. She's distant to me, not around much, and sex with her feels like she's doing an unpleasant chore (she's not interested in spicing it up).
We've had a very difficult past year with lots of ups and downs. I've been depressed at times, but have also been pushing forward with life - trying to redefine myself outside of the job I lost (I really was wrapped up in it). I've put on weight and know that I'm not as attractive to her (I've been overweight most of my life), but am working on more exercise and getting bariatric surgery. There have been times when I haven't been as present as I probably should have been. I own that I'm not perfect...
Three years ago I "fought" for our relationship, it was hard but I found a counselor, talked openly and frankly with my wife, supported her by not leaving & doing my best not to judge. I'm struggling now because I feel like she is on the brink of having another affair and is not "present" with me. Mostly our interactions feel cold and mechanical, mundane. I love my wife and family, but don't think I have it in me to be the only carrying the relationship or the energy to "fight" for her. My reactionary side says confront her about her interactions with these two guys and talk about next steps in our relationship. Basically, if she is going to screw around again I'd like to leave beforehand. She can start dealing with the kids, home, and her work. I'm not sure how to move forward and am feeling the more flight than fight.
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got a massive crush
so i have an amazing gf who i want to be with long term, can't imagine her not in my life etc etc.
However there is a woman at work who is older than me, im 24 she's 39 but a young 39 (looks 30 acts 25). She's pretty damn tidy and we get along great, we banter well and have a similar sense of humour, we both like the dirty jokes and innuendos which from the outside comes off as flirtatious but that's not how it's intended. I'm in her department 2 days a week and when i first started she showed me the ropes and then there was a huge staff shortage so it was just us two with a mountain of really stressful work and we both kept each others spirits up. In short i have a massive crush but it's purely lustful.
We had our works xmas party recently and we had a proper laugh, she then showed a couple of us before and after pictures of her boob job which didn't help my crush, not to mention she's quite open about her sex life with everyone
When i think about it, i have zero desire to be with her (not to mention it would never happen and her husband is built like a brick **** house). Just one night of (maybe two cos im greedy) of non stop sex would get rid of it im sure. however that isn't an option
It goes without saying that i would never act on these urges but how do i get rid of this crush, i've tried knocking one out over her - doesnt help, can't avoid her cos i'm on the desk opposite her and when i'm not it's a small building.
how do i get rid of the crush?
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Girls- would you date a guy who was less academically 'good' as you?
I know it sounds stupid but I might feel intimidated by a girl who is a lot more talented than me and plays 12 different instruments for example
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whats the point in having a cat?
bought a kitten 2 years ago and after all the money spent / food given she has shown 0 appreciation. she NEVER sits on my lap (or anyones), runs off as soon as u touch her and her constant diarrhea makes the entire house smell of ass. seriously i get so bored sometimes i imagine punching her straight in her face as hard as i can to see what would happen. wtf is the point of owning a cat rofl, we've been sold a dream
half of the reason why i decided to buy her was to sit on my chair stroking it like don vito corleone (srsly), but as soon as u put her on ur lap she flies to the other side of the room. i made a thread in the past (taken down now) about how i always fart on my cats face if i need to let one rip and she's within a 6 metre radius lol... i remember feeling bad about that ****, but now i realise that she really does deserve it
proper waste of money and space, norweigan forest cat for sale inbox for deets
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is this a bit extreme on text?
So to tease a girl and genrally bust her balls and have some banter.
Could i reply back to an earlier message and say-
Omg, you have nothing good to do on a friday/sat, but fantasize about teachers.
We both know what you get up to behind closed doors.
also emoticons or not?
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Guys do you think I'm wired ?
I m a type of girl who doesn't like massages, I find them un relaxing and unenjoyable , make feel uneasy when nail techians turn on the massage Chair while I'm waiting and think I want a massage . Do you find me wired
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Who watched SciFi's Ascension?
It's a 6 episode mini series on SciFi. So far they've shown 3 of the 6. The premise:
Quote:
| Ascension is inspired by the real-life Project Orion that existed under the administration of President John F. Kennedy.[3] The show sets up an alternate version of reality in which, in 1963, President Kennedy and the U.S. government, fearing the Cold War will become hot and lead to the destruction of the Earth, decided to launch a covert space mission. They sent 350 voluntary men, women and children into space on a century-long voyage aboard the USS Ascension, a massive, self-sustaining generation ship. Their mission is to colonize Proxima Centauri,[4] assuring the survival of the human race. At 51 years into the journey (i.e. in the present), as they approach the point of no return, the mysterious murder of a young woman – the first homicide since their departure[5] – causes the ship's crew to question the true nature of their mission |
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Help! I am really confused! Emotional affair?
Hello everyone.
First off i want to say that i am 26 years old married 7 years and have no kids.
Well here goes...
I feel like a scumbag... i think i am i love with my co-worker. THINK
I suppose this began 6 months ago. I was having problems in my marriage (again) And i work with this guy every day... he is kind,helpful,protective over me,listens to me and is not self-absorbed and shallow.
Lately i think about him everyday...constantly...i have even begun dressing up when i know i will see him. :(
Anyways i still love my husband but do not feel "in love" with him.
I think it is because of all the shady things he has done in the past and how i am never doing the things he "wants me to do"
(go to his moms church/ wear skimpy dresses...(yeah does not make sense but hear me out) he is confused in his own way and i think for the longest he projected that on me...he told me i should get breast implants!!!)
Well as of late he has been acting all nice again and i feel bad because he wants sex and stuff and...i don't even want him to touch me...i am thinking of this other guy.
But can i fall in love with him again?
I have made myself look desperate to this other guy i am sure...
(I act really stupid around him like a little girl with a crush and looking for his approval (BAD i know) How do i recover from that?
Should i look for another job? It is a nice job but i feel too ashamed...(i have not cheated...not physically anyway)
How do i make these feelings go away?
How can i get back some dignity?
(By the way husband just came in the door and he is already getting moody and arguing... :/)
I can't just leave as i have no where to go both parents are dead and i only work part-time as of now.
Sorry this is so long and full of typing errors. Feel free to ask any questions if necessary... i really need the advise.
First off i want to say that i am 26 years old married 7 years and have no kids.
Well here goes...
I feel like a scumbag... i think i am i love with my co-worker. THINK
I suppose this began 6 months ago. I was having problems in my marriage (again) And i work with this guy every day... he is kind,helpful,protective over me,listens to me and is not self-absorbed and shallow.
Lately i think about him everyday...constantly...i have even begun dressing up when i know i will see him. :(
Anyways i still love my husband but do not feel "in love" with him.
I think it is because of all the shady things he has done in the past and how i am never doing the things he "wants me to do"
(go to his moms church/ wear skimpy dresses...(yeah does not make sense but hear me out) he is confused in his own way and i think for the longest he projected that on me...he told me i should get breast implants!!!)
Well as of late he has been acting all nice again and i feel bad because he wants sex and stuff and...i don't even want him to touch me...i am thinking of this other guy.
But can i fall in love with him again?
I have made myself look desperate to this other guy i am sure...
(I act really stupid around him like a little girl with a crush and looking for his approval (BAD i know) How do i recover from that?
Should i look for another job? It is a nice job but i feel too ashamed...(i have not cheated...not physically anyway)
How do i make these feelings go away?
How can i get back some dignity?
(By the way husband just came in the door and he is already getting moody and arguing... :/)
I can't just leave as i have no where to go both parents are dead and i only work part-time as of now.
Sorry this is so long and full of typing errors. Feel free to ask any questions if necessary... i really need the advise.
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Yet more opinion seeking!
Alo.
So.. the lowdown..
Me: 35 F, B/F is 33M, time dating = 3 months. No kids. I live alone, he lives with two female housemates, one a long time friend, one he barely speaks with.
For myself, this is one of my first ever true relationships. All others have been mostly long distance, lasting from 4 months to 2 years, often with 2-4 years in between. So yes. finally, at 35, this is my first relationship, and i"m freaked out and have no clue what I'm doing. * meep help!
So..
Other pertinent facts: We are both introverts to some degree, him more so than I , I do have an extrovert flair. At least 1 weekend per month I used just stay by myself daydreaming and zoning out.
I so far am finding him very needy. I've basically gone to having evenings and weekends all to myself if I want it that way, to only having Monday, Thursday and Friday nights, and half of Sunday. weeknights are usually shot with errands, making food, cleaning food, and then.. done. He comes over after work Friday around midnight, and then we're together until about 11 on Sunday when he leaves for work again, by which time I'm cleaning up the mess that's been made while he was here, preparing for the rest of the week.. and I still don't really relax.. and I"m so desperate for me time. To really de-stress, I find I NEED a weekend, and not just 5 hours where you're trying to de-stress from work, get life done, and get into bed to do it all again.
We have talked a bit about this. He feels insecure and self doubting because "I don't want to see him". I've tried telling him it's more that " I NEED my alone time". He always says that if I need time to myself, just say so. But the three times in 3 months I've taken him up on this in minor ways, delaying our meetups till the next morning, or by 2 hours.. he later freaks out over txt msg or otherwise.. and I feel an odd mix of guilty/bad/resentful and.. overwhelmed/frustrated.
Also, when we're not together.. he gets antsy if I'm not texting him. He hates his job and says my text brighten up his day.. once I didn't know what to write.. so I sent a funny definition of something.. and that still upset him.
Sorry.. that was long.
I just find it stressful to have someone needing so much time and energy from me all of a sudden. We went from 0 to 100% time together in.. 2 months really.
Um.. thoughts?
So.. the lowdown..
Me: 35 F, B/F is 33M, time dating = 3 months. No kids. I live alone, he lives with two female housemates, one a long time friend, one he barely speaks with.
For myself, this is one of my first ever true relationships. All others have been mostly long distance, lasting from 4 months to 2 years, often with 2-4 years in between. So yes. finally, at 35, this is my first relationship, and i"m freaked out and have no clue what I'm doing. * meep help!
So..
Other pertinent facts: We are both introverts to some degree, him more so than I , I do have an extrovert flair. At least 1 weekend per month I used just stay by myself daydreaming and zoning out.
I so far am finding him very needy. I've basically gone to having evenings and weekends all to myself if I want it that way, to only having Monday, Thursday and Friday nights, and half of Sunday. weeknights are usually shot with errands, making food, cleaning food, and then.. done. He comes over after work Friday around midnight, and then we're together until about 11 on Sunday when he leaves for work again, by which time I'm cleaning up the mess that's been made while he was here, preparing for the rest of the week.. and I still don't really relax.. and I"m so desperate for me time. To really de-stress, I find I NEED a weekend, and not just 5 hours where you're trying to de-stress from work, get life done, and get into bed to do it all again.
We have talked a bit about this. He feels insecure and self doubting because "I don't want to see him". I've tried telling him it's more that " I NEED my alone time". He always says that if I need time to myself, just say so. But the three times in 3 months I've taken him up on this in minor ways, delaying our meetups till the next morning, or by 2 hours.. he later freaks out over txt msg or otherwise.. and I feel an odd mix of guilty/bad/resentful and.. overwhelmed/frustrated.
Also, when we're not together.. he gets antsy if I'm not texting him. He hates his job and says my text brighten up his day.. once I didn't know what to write.. so I sent a funny definition of something.. and that still upset him.
Sorry.. that was long.
I just find it stressful to have someone needing so much time and energy from me all of a sudden. We went from 0 to 100% time together in.. 2 months really.
Um.. thoughts?
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Sadness and Holidays
Im sure there is more out there on this, but I'll go ahead and start my own.
I'm posting here, to those of you who might already be past that awful year of "firsts".
Any advice for the first holiday season? I'm not pining for my STBX or my marriage. I'm just so sad about the loss of tradition. For me. Everything we do is with his family, and he still gets all of it. I'm the one who has to find somewhere to be on Christmas Day.
I just want to skip to NYE and my official new start.
Any advice?
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I'm posting here, to those of you who might already be past that awful year of "firsts".
Any advice for the first holiday season? I'm not pining for my STBX or my marriage. I'm just so sad about the loss of tradition. For me. Everything we do is with his family, and he still gets all of it. I'm the one who has to find somewhere to be on Christmas Day.
I just want to skip to NYE and my official new start.
Any advice?
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