I wanted the input from some males out there. I have been married for 15 years,have 2 great kids and while I love my husband,the marriage really lacks the sexual excitement.
When we do have sex I feel like he's rushing to get what he wants and I am left unfulfilled most times. He's 45 and use to have a tremendous sex drive but,age I guess plays a roll and now he has to take Cialis for a couple of days before we can do anything so spontaneity is out!
I have talked about this with him many times that I like longer foreplay and the anticipation of what's coming next. We have done the porn, I always dress in sexy lingerie,even costumes and role play.
He use to care about my enjoyment first but, now he's anxious I guess about losing the mood or maybe he's not in to me anymore.
I am tired of talking about this,things get better for a little while and gradually we find ourselves in the same place. He's on his PC with Diablo and I am upstairs on my Nook.
I find myself looking at porn videos or a couple and seeking my pleasure that way and frankly it's not the same as the real thing.
Don't get me wrong I have never had a big sex drive he always did. Now,I find myself not having an orgasm or faking one with him and I feel awful. We've tried sex toys and everything but,now we just feel like roommates and he's an AWESOME Dad and great in every way but, the sex dept is lacking so much that I even considered seeking out another married man who's also not being fulfilled by his wife. I created a profile and then felt so bad after 3 days I removed everything.
I know I have to tell him but,am afraid of what will happen. I have talked about me needing more in our sex life and he just doesn't get it,I feel.
Guys out there please give me your input!!! I would appreciate it.
When we do have sex I feel like he's rushing to get what he wants and I am left unfulfilled most times. He's 45 and use to have a tremendous sex drive but,age I guess plays a roll and now he has to take Cialis for a couple of days before we can do anything so spontaneity is out!
I have talked about this with him many times that I like longer foreplay and the anticipation of what's coming next. We have done the porn, I always dress in sexy lingerie,even costumes and role play.
He use to care about my enjoyment first but, now he's anxious I guess about losing the mood or maybe he's not in to me anymore.
I am tired of talking about this,things get better for a little while and gradually we find ourselves in the same place. He's on his PC with Diablo and I am upstairs on my Nook.
I find myself looking at porn videos or a couple and seeking my pleasure that way and frankly it's not the same as the real thing.
Don't get me wrong I have never had a big sex drive he always did. Now,I find myself not having an orgasm or faking one with him and I feel awful. We've tried sex toys and everything but,now we just feel like roommates and he's an AWESOME Dad and great in every way but, the sex dept is lacking so much that I even considered seeking out another married man who's also not being fulfilled by his wife. I created a profile and then felt so bad after 3 days I removed everything.
I know I have to tell him but,am afraid of what will happen. I have talked about me needing more in our sex life and he just doesn't get it,I feel.
Guys out there please give me your input!!! I would appreciate it.
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