I got divorced a couple years ago and met (or re-met) my new husband. We went to high school together years ago and then he contacted me through Facebook. I love him very much, more than my first husband, but this sex difference is killing me! Especially when it is my stress relief and I own a business, plus have 3 kids.
My first husband and I were so compatible sexually. We'd have it almost every day, sometimes 2-3 times a day. Even when we separated we still would occasionally hook up. My new husband says he's never been all that interested in sex, always had a low drive. I'm now lucky if I can get him to do it once a week, but sometimes not even that. We were ok in the beginning, just dating, but a few months after he moved in it all went down hill. Of course it's not a deal breaker as we are now recently married. He's never been married before and was a roadie for 10 years so really hasn't had a ton of relationships either.
We've discussed it to death and I'm just really disappointed nothing's changing yet he promises again and again to work on it. he's always tired or not feeling good or he doesn't want it when he's stressed, opposite of me.
I feel like I'm starting to just give up, not feel it (sexual desire) anymore and I really don't want that, but don't know what to do here. Sex with him is great most of the time. It has it's ruts of same thing/positions every time or awkwardness and he's not really into oral sometimes, but as a whole it's really good and connected. I just am at a loss. Until now I'd never met a guy who didn't like sex. I've tried initiating, doing things he says would turn him on more and nothing works and no matter how much he says he's attracted to me, why does this seem to play on my beauty or feeling sexy/beautiful and self-worth/esteem in a way? I dunno...
My first husband and I were so compatible sexually. We'd have it almost every day, sometimes 2-3 times a day. Even when we separated we still would occasionally hook up. My new husband says he's never been all that interested in sex, always had a low drive. I'm now lucky if I can get him to do it once a week, but sometimes not even that. We were ok in the beginning, just dating, but a few months after he moved in it all went down hill. Of course it's not a deal breaker as we are now recently married. He's never been married before and was a roadie for 10 years so really hasn't had a ton of relationships either.
We've discussed it to death and I'm just really disappointed nothing's changing yet he promises again and again to work on it. he's always tired or not feeling good or he doesn't want it when he's stressed, opposite of me.
I feel like I'm starting to just give up, not feel it (sexual desire) anymore and I really don't want that, but don't know what to do here. Sex with him is great most of the time. It has it's ruts of same thing/positions every time or awkwardness and he's not really into oral sometimes, but as a whole it's really good and connected. I just am at a loss. Until now I'd never met a guy who didn't like sex. I've tried initiating, doing things he says would turn him on more and nothing works and no matter how much he says he's attracted to me, why does this seem to play on my beauty or feeling sexy/beautiful and self-worth/esteem in a way? I dunno...
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