I am just looking for some suggestions from folks I hope have a lot more experience than I do.
We have been together for three years and will be getting married soon. Everything in our relationship is pretty good. We get along damn near perfectly emotionally and spiritually, but the physical/intimate part of our relationship is not as good as it could be. I have the higher sex drive of the two of us, but I have fairly good self control. I would love the be close to her at least once a week, but we are much closer to once every month or two. I have tried being more affectionate, and it makes her happy and better. She just kinda, well, seems to forget. Her life is just too busy she says. Too tired at night, too busy in the day, and she has to get ready in the morning. I try to help when I can, but I normally just get a thanks and its back to whatever she was doing. The part that really confuses me is that it doesn't matter what I want. She will go along with me but make it VERY clear she doesn't want to right now. But if she wants me I am expected to drop everything and do it now. Do I have plans? They don't matter. Am I going to see a friend? Nope, this needs to happen now. I have talked with her, and we have even tried to set up romantic nights and times to be intimate, sometimes weeks in advance, but she always cancels or says no the day of.
I just am at the end of my rope because I love her like the world. We work well together in every other way except in this. I am just hoping maybe someone has some advice to help with our little dilemma.
Thank you in advance
We have been together for three years and will be getting married soon. Everything in our relationship is pretty good. We get along damn near perfectly emotionally and spiritually, but the physical/intimate part of our relationship is not as good as it could be. I have the higher sex drive of the two of us, but I have fairly good self control. I would love the be close to her at least once a week, but we are much closer to once every month or two. I have tried being more affectionate, and it makes her happy and better. She just kinda, well, seems to forget. Her life is just too busy she says. Too tired at night, too busy in the day, and she has to get ready in the morning. I try to help when I can, but I normally just get a thanks and its back to whatever she was doing. The part that really confuses me is that it doesn't matter what I want. She will go along with me but make it VERY clear she doesn't want to right now. But if she wants me I am expected to drop everything and do it now. Do I have plans? They don't matter. Am I going to see a friend? Nope, this needs to happen now. I have talked with her, and we have even tried to set up romantic nights and times to be intimate, sometimes weeks in advance, but she always cancels or says no the day of.
I just am at the end of my rope because I love her like the world. We work well together in every other way except in this. I am just hoping maybe someone has some advice to help with our little dilemma.
Thank you in advance
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