My wife likes to sleep late. She's a SAHM, so I end up getting up with our son (3YO)every morning before I go to work. Before I go to work at 9am, I have to wake her up.
Our daughter (2YO) seems to sleep later most days, but on my days off, I end up getting her up. A few months ago, I made a deal with my wife that she would wake up early one of my days off. It never happened.
It's not so much that I want to sleep late, I'm an early riser; but more that she sleeps until 11am. So I'm watching the kids while she's sleeping. No biggie for me, but not really a fair division of responsibility IMO.
So this summer, we've been staying with my parents at their summer home. My mother or I wake up with the kids and my wife sleeps until 10:30-11:30am almost every day. My mother isn't complaining, but I can see that they tire her out. On my days off, I'm usually up early with the kids, but the days I work, it's only my mother.
So... Should I tell her to start setting her alarm? Should I gently suggest she set her alarm? Should I set my alarm really loud? Or, should ignore it and just let her sleep?
I am developing resentments over it. Not really the sleeping, but when she wakes up, she suggests I don't know what it's like to take care of the kids. Today it was that I never pack the kids clothes to go to the summer home. Yes, because I'm at work when they leave. That makes me mad.
The other day, my mother overhead her telling a friend how difficult it was waking up with the kids. My mother implied it was frustrating listening to her, because she and I got up with the kids that morning and my wife got an extra nap in that day. This was after my wife visited her sister for two weeks and left the kids with myself and my mother. Her sister had a baby.
EDIT: Most of my reason for posting here is to vent.
Our daughter (2YO) seems to sleep later most days, but on my days off, I end up getting her up. A few months ago, I made a deal with my wife that she would wake up early one of my days off. It never happened.
It's not so much that I want to sleep late, I'm an early riser; but more that she sleeps until 11am. So I'm watching the kids while she's sleeping. No biggie for me, but not really a fair division of responsibility IMO.
So this summer, we've been staying with my parents at their summer home. My mother or I wake up with the kids and my wife sleeps until 10:30-11:30am almost every day. My mother isn't complaining, but I can see that they tire her out. On my days off, I'm usually up early with the kids, but the days I work, it's only my mother.
So... Should I tell her to start setting her alarm? Should I gently suggest she set her alarm? Should I set my alarm really loud? Or, should ignore it and just let her sleep?
I am developing resentments over it. Not really the sleeping, but when she wakes up, she suggests I don't know what it's like to take care of the kids. Today it was that I never pack the kids clothes to go to the summer home. Yes, because I'm at work when they leave. That makes me mad.
The other day, my mother overhead her telling a friend how difficult it was waking up with the kids. My mother implied it was frustrating listening to her, because she and I got up with the kids that morning and my wife got an extra nap in that day. This was after my wife visited her sister for two weeks and left the kids with myself and my mother. Her sister had a baby.
EDIT: Most of my reason for posting here is to vent.
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