I have just joined and am looking for some advice. I have been married to my husband for almost 9 years, met him 19 years ago. We have two children age 7 and 4. My husband has never been interested in sex and we went years without sex even in the beginning. I have always lacked confidence in the way that I look and always felt that my husband was too good for me.As I have got older I realise that I am overly critical of myself and for my age am in good shape and been told I am very attractive and don't look my age. I know now I should never have put up with it and never have married him. If I didn't have the children I would have left him by now.
Spoke to my husband 4 years ago and told him how unhappy I am and I wanted more intimacy/sex. He basically told me he was too busy with the kids and would have time for me when when they were older. When pushed on the lack of sex issue he tells me what we have is normal. Around this time things did improve and I had pity sex about once a month. Things have slipped back to normal again and last had sex with him 23 May 2013.
I have reached a stage where I know he has zero interest in sex and I have given up. I just don't want to beg him anymore. As you can imagine this makes me feel rubbish. I don't feel loved by him, we hardly talk, don't really do anything together. As I said I can't even be bothered to attempt to fix it. I think I have accepted this is the way he is.
I can't quite get my head around the fact that he never wants sex...pretty certain he isn't having an affair and have asked him if he is gay and he has said no. As a woman you are told that all men want sex constantly. So for the men out there, how long could you go without sex? If you were in my position what would you do?
Spoke to my husband 4 years ago and told him how unhappy I am and I wanted more intimacy/sex. He basically told me he was too busy with the kids and would have time for me when when they were older. When pushed on the lack of sex issue he tells me what we have is normal. Around this time things did improve and I had pity sex about once a month. Things have slipped back to normal again and last had sex with him 23 May 2013.
I have reached a stage where I know he has zero interest in sex and I have given up. I just don't want to beg him anymore. As you can imagine this makes me feel rubbish. I don't feel loved by him, we hardly talk, don't really do anything together. As I said I can't even be bothered to attempt to fix it. I think I have accepted this is the way he is.
I can't quite get my head around the fact that he never wants sex...pretty certain he isn't having an affair and have asked him if he is gay and he has said no. As a woman you are told that all men want sex constantly. So for the men out there, how long could you go without sex? If you were in my position what would you do?
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