So i am in a crisis....trying to figure out what to do with my life.
I have been married to the same man for 18 years. We have one child who is in elementary school.
My husband is nice and kind ...for the most part. However, his overall demeanor is very depressed. He often complains about everything....will call or email me all day complaining about bad drivers, long lines at airports...that he's exhausted. He is just NEVER happy unless he's on a mission ...angry at someone.
We haven't had se* in months... I have asked him to go to therapy with me and he won't anymore. However, he did go a few years ago and he said he didn't enjoy bringing up negative stuff from his/our past. And he won't do it again.
We are in major debt and he is not all that motivated to get out of it. We are just living in a tough situation. He just isn't there for me... He says he tries. But words and actions aren't the same. I needed to have surgery last week. I told him I needed him to transfer money out of 401k. (I couldn't because his name is on it) he agreed. Said he would do it. The night before I told him it had to be done the next morning or doctor would cancel me. He said that he was too busy with traveling and work and could not spare 10 minutes to do it.
When he returned home he asked about my surgery. I told him it was cancelled. And he said why? I said because you couldn't get money to me. He flipped out on me and said that he didn't realize or remember that I had said it had to be done before my surgery.
I told him we were done. That I couldn't take this treatment any more. He got kinda mean and said that he was sorry he was such a failure and loser etc etc. And I should go find a rich doctor or something to make me happy.
I suggested therapy again. And he just ignored me. Now it's been 5 days and he's pretending nothing happened. Saying he loves me when be calls. But otherwise acting cold etc.
I feel lost. I'm scared of being alone. What would you do?
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I have been married to the same man for 18 years. We have one child who is in elementary school.
My husband is nice and kind ...for the most part. However, his overall demeanor is very depressed. He often complains about everything....will call or email me all day complaining about bad drivers, long lines at airports...that he's exhausted. He is just NEVER happy unless he's on a mission ...angry at someone.
We haven't had se* in months... I have asked him to go to therapy with me and he won't anymore. However, he did go a few years ago and he said he didn't enjoy bringing up negative stuff from his/our past. And he won't do it again.
We are in major debt and he is not all that motivated to get out of it. We are just living in a tough situation. He just isn't there for me... He says he tries. But words and actions aren't the same. I needed to have surgery last week. I told him I needed him to transfer money out of 401k. (I couldn't because his name is on it) he agreed. Said he would do it. The night before I told him it had to be done the next morning or doctor would cancel me. He said that he was too busy with traveling and work and could not spare 10 minutes to do it.
When he returned home he asked about my surgery. I told him it was cancelled. And he said why? I said because you couldn't get money to me. He flipped out on me and said that he didn't realize or remember that I had said it had to be done before my surgery.
I told him we were done. That I couldn't take this treatment any more. He got kinda mean and said that he was sorry he was such a failure and loser etc etc. And I should go find a rich doctor or something to make me happy.
I suggested therapy again. And he just ignored me. Now it's been 5 days and he's pretending nothing happened. Saying he loves me when be calls. But otherwise acting cold etc.
I feel lost. I'm scared of being alone. What would you do?
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