My H and I have a really rocky marriage. Right now, we are on thin ice. From my previous posts you'll see that he's cheated yadda yadda. Well, I filed for divorce and handed papers over and that seems to be when he wanted to do counseling, order books, and really work on us. He didn't deserve another chance at all, but here I am.
I am mad at him and he doesn't understand why, even though I've explained it. Here is what happened:
Day before yesterday, H finally opened up about what he wanted me to do to him. This is a milestone because he has never opened up. I've always had to just guess. So, I started teasing him and we were really getting into it.
RING RING. Yep the phone goes off. He answers. It's his friend from like 8 years ago who he said he didn't really care for anyway because the guy always bailed when they were supposed to hang out. Also, this guy talked major crap about me when H and I first started dating. I dislike this dude to the core.
I continue to play with him thinking he will tell the guy he will call him back later. 20 minutes goes by H lost his erection and I realize that he isn't getting off the phone. I get up, get dressed, and go to bed. He comes up 45 minutes later and says he's sorry. I was so irritated. Why would he choose to talk to this dude who talked crap about me and he's someone my H apparently didn't care for...or so he says?
Fast forward to yesterday. H came home for lunch and the kids were sleeping so I suggest we take the opportunity to get it on during the day. We had about 2 minutes of foreplay and literally less than 5 min after PIV started, he was done and I was left hanging...again. He said he would finish me off, but that never happened because he was hungry...and had to go back to work later that evening. (he worked form 7am-1030am and then went back to work at 7pm...military med evac came in).
I explained that every now and then quickies are completely fine and I don't care if I don't get off during those times. However, leaving me hanging twice in a row is really going to make me want to just go take care of myself instead. I'm not even interested in having sex again considering I've already put up with enough of his crap. This has happened before in our relationship, but usually he makes up for it or we bring in toys for assistance.
As a woman, you can't just get a man hard and start having sex with him and then when you're done, sex is over...no way.
Am I overreacting? I'm wondering if he's being passive about something, but I couldn't imagine what. I have been moody since I found out about the affair and I do less for him, but that is kind of a given, if you hurt someone too many times, they are less likely to put up with your crap.
Sorry, I will apologize to him if I am overreacting, because he seems to think I'm nuts, but I don't think I am.
I am mad at him and he doesn't understand why, even though I've explained it. Here is what happened:
Day before yesterday, H finally opened up about what he wanted me to do to him. This is a milestone because he has never opened up. I've always had to just guess. So, I started teasing him and we were really getting into it.
RING RING. Yep the phone goes off. He answers. It's his friend from like 8 years ago who he said he didn't really care for anyway because the guy always bailed when they were supposed to hang out. Also, this guy talked major crap about me when H and I first started dating. I dislike this dude to the core.
I continue to play with him thinking he will tell the guy he will call him back later. 20 minutes goes by H lost his erection and I realize that he isn't getting off the phone. I get up, get dressed, and go to bed. He comes up 45 minutes later and says he's sorry. I was so irritated. Why would he choose to talk to this dude who talked crap about me and he's someone my H apparently didn't care for...or so he says?
Fast forward to yesterday. H came home for lunch and the kids were sleeping so I suggest we take the opportunity to get it on during the day. We had about 2 minutes of foreplay and literally less than 5 min after PIV started, he was done and I was left hanging...again. He said he would finish me off, but that never happened because he was hungry...and had to go back to work later that evening. (he worked form 7am-1030am and then went back to work at 7pm...military med evac came in).
I explained that every now and then quickies are completely fine and I don't care if I don't get off during those times. However, leaving me hanging twice in a row is really going to make me want to just go take care of myself instead. I'm not even interested in having sex again considering I've already put up with enough of his crap. This has happened before in our relationship, but usually he makes up for it or we bring in toys for assistance.
As a woman, you can't just get a man hard and start having sex with him and then when you're done, sex is over...no way.
Am I overreacting? I'm wondering if he's being passive about something, but I couldn't imagine what. I have been moody since I found out about the affair and I do less for him, but that is kind of a given, if you hurt someone too many times, they are less likely to put up with your crap.
Sorry, I will apologize to him if I am overreacting, because he seems to think I'm nuts, but I don't think I am.
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