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What does this txt from her imply?

Hi,


I've been dating a girl (met off a dating site, admittedly). On our 2 dates, we've been getting on really well (only thing that lacks is any physicality).

Anyway, the night of the 2nd date, after we got home, I asked her about meeting up again, to which she said the following:

Yeah its cool to meet up then. I just wanna say something though, like I know we were both on that website and stuff n weve only met twice. I just see us as being friends, I dunno about you.
So if we meet up again, we meet up as mates? I do think u are a nice person though, I'm not sure what your thoughts are as well.



Ok so this is very negative. Friends written all over it.

We discuss this for a bit, where we touch on our previous relationships (or lack of), and where this has all come from, and conclude that she (and now me, thus) is/are confused, so she agrees on my suggestion to sleep on it (partly as it's got very late so we will not conclude anything (like what happens now) - even if it is as simple as her just wanting to being friends - in the evening).


2 days later (in the mean time we avoid the topic as we are at work etc)), I ask her to clear the air to which she says the below. I basically started by saying that the original txts on the Thursday implied she wanted to be friends forever with no room to negotiate (no s**t...):


ok so heres how it is. The whole 'dating' word. I don't like that word n I think we shouldn't be getting confused over the definition. Everyone has different opinions. So what I wanna say is the foundation of every relationship is friendship. I see us as friends at the mo, whether it will go anywhere is hard to say. I don't think we can say it's black or white because life is not like that. The reason for the friends thing is because we've not openly discussed what we have been. So I'm gonna say lets see how things go because I think u are genuinely nice guy. If you agree or disagree just let me know.

After this, I am in agreement and she talks about her past (painful) experiences. We even talk about living with parents after marriage and what we look for in our partners (although only yesterday!).


So with the 2nd msg in mind, am I being let down gently? Friendzoned? Something else?

Any help appreciated.

Thanks




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