Hello everyone. Sorry to start a new thread, as it would be nice if this part of the forum didn't exist. I've been a long time reader but finally decided to post my story, because, frankly, I feel like some of the seasoned pros or other victims of infidelity might be able to offer insight.
A few weeks ago, my wife started a new job at a new gym (she's a personal trainer). She's very pretty, and very fit. I accept that she'll get hit on at the gym, and I'm ok with that.
However, she's met a guy at the gym who's clearly taken a. Interest in her. He's married as well, and a local radio dj, and clearly thinks of himself as a pseudo celebrity. It started with him making jokes about taking his kids and our daughter on trips. Seemed innocent enough at first because she told me about this. My internal alarm was already ringing, though.
So she says he wants to mention her on his show, etc., which is great for business, but I, and anyone else, for that matter, knows it's not because he's just a nice guy.
At some point they exchange numbers and begin texting. She's not volunteering me access to her phone, but not exactly hiding it either, mostly because she knows that I'm not nosy and I trust her. However, my gut tells me to start checking messages if I get the chance, and I do. He's asking her training advice, etc. so far so good. Then I see a text about apologizing for calling her gorgeous. Says it's inappropiate, and he knows that, but "it's the truth". She thanks him for the compliment (this message was subsequently deleted).
They continue texting. At last count, over 300 times in 10 days. Mostly innocent banter but he is obviously fishing to gauge her interest. He tells her he wants her to train him (she tells me this) and says she thinks it's great for her career etc. I ask her if he's keeping it clean, and not making any off color remarks. She lies and says yes (this is after he says ina message "I can't stand the thought of not seeing...I mean training with you for three days"). She tells him that they are a good team and she'll train him well.
Fast forward to last night, and he starts text bombing her. I know it's him, but I act non chalant. She tells me it's him texting, and my first thought is that I didn't even ask, so why are you telling me? I managed to glance at her phone briefly and the last message was him saying that he misses her. And her reply was "me too;) see ya tomorrow".
Now, she's gone completely private with her cell phone. Attached at her hip when before it wasn't. She has a slightly increased sexual appetite as well. And started trying new positions even though she's a very vanilla girl sexually.
I don't think it's gone PA yet (although who knows). Is this considered an EA? I'm keeping my cool and playing dumb because I want to see what the progression is. Is that the best course of action? Suggestions?
TIA.
A few weeks ago, my wife started a new job at a new gym (she's a personal trainer). She's very pretty, and very fit. I accept that she'll get hit on at the gym, and I'm ok with that.
However, she's met a guy at the gym who's clearly taken a. Interest in her. He's married as well, and a local radio dj, and clearly thinks of himself as a pseudo celebrity. It started with him making jokes about taking his kids and our daughter on trips. Seemed innocent enough at first because she told me about this. My internal alarm was already ringing, though.
So she says he wants to mention her on his show, etc., which is great for business, but I, and anyone else, for that matter, knows it's not because he's just a nice guy.
At some point they exchange numbers and begin texting. She's not volunteering me access to her phone, but not exactly hiding it either, mostly because she knows that I'm not nosy and I trust her. However, my gut tells me to start checking messages if I get the chance, and I do. He's asking her training advice, etc. so far so good. Then I see a text about apologizing for calling her gorgeous. Says it's inappropiate, and he knows that, but "it's the truth". She thanks him for the compliment (this message was subsequently deleted).
They continue texting. At last count, over 300 times in 10 days. Mostly innocent banter but he is obviously fishing to gauge her interest. He tells her he wants her to train him (she tells me this) and says she thinks it's great for her career etc. I ask her if he's keeping it clean, and not making any off color remarks. She lies and says yes (this is after he says ina message "I can't stand the thought of not seeing...I mean training with you for three days"). She tells him that they are a good team and she'll train him well.
Fast forward to last night, and he starts text bombing her. I know it's him, but I act non chalant. She tells me it's him texting, and my first thought is that I didn't even ask, so why are you telling me? I managed to glance at her phone briefly and the last message was him saying that he misses her. And her reply was "me too;) see ya tomorrow".
Now, she's gone completely private with her cell phone. Attached at her hip when before it wasn't. She has a slightly increased sexual appetite as well. And started trying new positions even though she's a very vanilla girl sexually.
I don't think it's gone PA yet (although who knows). Is this considered an EA? I'm keeping my cool and playing dumb because I want to see what the progression is. Is that the best course of action? Suggestions?
TIA.
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