I will give some background since I am unsure of how to link my previous thread.
I left my husband last year in June due to trust issues, and I relocated with our son to a city about 2 hours away. We were in a bad place mostly due to him lying. I found out he had been talking/texting other women that I didn't know, and this wasn't the first time he got caught. On top of that I had a job where I worked 12 hour night shifts, so I really didn't know what all went on. But long story short I left. After moving with our son I quickly got into a routine, and we were doing ok. Don't get me wrong I still struggled with all we went through but I had peace of mind which I can't say I had before.
From the day I left my husband wanted me back, and wanted us to work. He would tell me that he knew where he went wrong, and ask for a chance to redeem himself. Well after 3 months I decided to give it a try and allow him to move with us once he had a job. My only request was that there be no texting/talking to women unless it was strictly work related. He told me that he learned his lesson, and that would not be an issue anymore.
Ok lets fast forward to March 2014 I found out that not only was my husband talking to the women that I found out about the previous year, but that he actually never stopped talking to her. I was in shock to say the least. After confronting him about it he would say that's nothing to worry about, but I had pretty much checked out by then. After a while (maybe 3-4 weeks) I started to feel like maybe I was being unreasonable, and I woke him up in the middle of the night for a talk. At that time he told me that she was only a friend, and that he stopped talking to her because of the trouble it caused. I believed again. Well one day while at work I just logged into his FB account, and they were actually chatting. He would immediately delete the messages once sent/received. So while there were no texts on the phone bill, there would be no way to know about fb messages.
I told him I was done, and we argued. As always he would respond by telling me I'm not perfect (I never claimed to be), but he doesn't seem to understand the fact that he never stopped this 'friendship' is an issue. The next morning he was different, he wants us to work, and he was sorry. Now he's all about me now, and insists that he isn't talking with her anymore. My dilemma is why pursue me if you were going to continue to lie. Please understand that I never asked for him to reconcile, as far as I was concerned I was done. Second how would one know if this is a sincere change and that the same behavior won't be repeated? Although I have no proof that anything physical ever happened between them I don't see why anyone would go through such measures for just a 'friend'.
I left my husband last year in June due to trust issues, and I relocated with our son to a city about 2 hours away. We were in a bad place mostly due to him lying. I found out he had been talking/texting other women that I didn't know, and this wasn't the first time he got caught. On top of that I had a job where I worked 12 hour night shifts, so I really didn't know what all went on. But long story short I left. After moving with our son I quickly got into a routine, and we were doing ok. Don't get me wrong I still struggled with all we went through but I had peace of mind which I can't say I had before.
From the day I left my husband wanted me back, and wanted us to work. He would tell me that he knew where he went wrong, and ask for a chance to redeem himself. Well after 3 months I decided to give it a try and allow him to move with us once he had a job. My only request was that there be no texting/talking to women unless it was strictly work related. He told me that he learned his lesson, and that would not be an issue anymore.
Ok lets fast forward to March 2014 I found out that not only was my husband talking to the women that I found out about the previous year, but that he actually never stopped talking to her. I was in shock to say the least. After confronting him about it he would say that's nothing to worry about, but I had pretty much checked out by then. After a while (maybe 3-4 weeks) I started to feel like maybe I was being unreasonable, and I woke him up in the middle of the night for a talk. At that time he told me that she was only a friend, and that he stopped talking to her because of the trouble it caused. I believed again. Well one day while at work I just logged into his FB account, and they were actually chatting. He would immediately delete the messages once sent/received. So while there were no texts on the phone bill, there would be no way to know about fb messages.
I told him I was done, and we argued. As always he would respond by telling me I'm not perfect (I never claimed to be), but he doesn't seem to understand the fact that he never stopped this 'friendship' is an issue. The next morning he was different, he wants us to work, and he was sorry. Now he's all about me now, and insists that he isn't talking with her anymore. My dilemma is why pursue me if you were going to continue to lie. Please understand that I never asked for him to reconcile, as far as I was concerned I was done. Second how would one know if this is a sincere change and that the same behavior won't be repeated? Although I have no proof that anything physical ever happened between them I don't see why anyone would go through such measures for just a 'friend'.
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