1. It is common for a woman to be angrily and resentfully accused by men of bait and switch whether it is ceasing or greatly reducing sex and/or BJ's after husbands were supposedly intentionally "deceived" into a marriage with her with expectations and entitlements in place based on prior behavior or promises.
2. The female defense is also common that the husband stopped doing something that causes the woman to stop sex and or BJs so the woman's ceasing is entirely justified and fair despite the man's reliance on making decisions about his future with her.
3. If the man does indeed stop doing something that the woman relied on to make decisions about her future with him, isn't bait and switch also if it is intentional? Is it ever intentional? I doubt it is any more intentional that a women's despite shutting down when her husbands stops doing things that make her feel desire to please him.
4. In other words if the man is doing things prior to and in the beginning of marriage and then he stops doing things when married is he not also "guilty" of bait and switch when it is a conscious choice to NOT continue to do what his wife expected would continue? How is it not the same bait and switch the husband accuses the women of? Which came first? Did the husband stop creating feelings of desire within his wife or did his wife stop feeling desire to please first? It matters to determine that before accurate accusations begin doesn't it?
5. Isn't doing things that create expectations and then stopping them once the prize is acquired the very definition of bait and switch only if it is intentional? Is it EVER intentional? I don't think it is in almost all cases of these accusations.
6. Before you get all pi$$ed off, I think it is a cynical foolish view in most cases that someone would go to that level of trouble to fool their spouse ON PURPOSE. It is an UNPLANNED outcome because neither is intentional. It seems all "crimes" (I use the term for effect only) require intent. If their is no intent but instead only some level of common laziness and complacency instead of continuing to invest effort into the marriage.
7. If there is no intent, there is no "crime". Only when sex and BJ's or romance, love and affection are intentionally offered only temporarily and then stopping is planned to trick/deceive your partner into married you can it be bait and switch. Intent is required. That isn't the case. It is not intentional. Rather, these outcomes are a result of a let down from a spouse.
8. Intent must be there for it to be evil instead of a natural outcome of slowly stopping investments into causing the results you want from your partner.
9. No one is obligated to do that which they do not want to do because their spouse had false expectations of what would and would not continue when something else changed between them causing an unwelcome development such as a lack of desire to please the other whether the govong spouse wants to or not.
10. That being said, it would also be nice to know if any woman has honestly EVER intentionally practiced bait and switch by using sex to land a man into marriage with the specific intent to stop offering sex after she had him legally bound up into a situation that would be costly, painful and irritating to get out of?
11. Can any member of the sisterhood ADMIT knowledge of bait and switch with the required intent component.
12. Disclosure: I advocate men to get their $hit together to create the motive in theor spouse to want to please them. Whiners don't like it. It is not essy but it can be done.
13. This bait and switch accusation from husbands has gotten old when the wives say the husband stopped doing things she relied on to make her decisions about a future with him.
14. Let's put this bull$hit to bed.
15. It seems both sides are guilty of complacency and laziness and neither is guilty of intentional deceit. The only guilt is being a $hitty spouse.
16. Solution: stop being a $hitty spouse, figure out how to get the resentments from your Phuck ups out with the trash and get some gud luvin again.
17, If you don't know how or won't take responsibility, then you aint getting any. It's your choice to learn how to inspire your spouse into wanting to please you. If you aren't up for the job, at least stop your whining and admit you are either lazy or unequipped to pull it off.
18. Stop blaming your spouse with faulty bait and switch accusations that are clearly missing the intent needed got the accusation to be legit, and get to work owning your own $hit before you call your spouse intentionally dishonest when it's more likely a short coming on your own behavior that also looks exactly like bait and switch to the other side of the argument.
19. Aren't most of the problems surrounding bad marriages because each spouse does not take FULL responsibility to cause and effect the outcomes they want. GROW UP comes to mind.
20. How do you set out trying to get career results at work for yourself? How do you go about getting parenting results that you desire? By taking full responsibility for those outcomes regardless of how hard it is or confusing it is? You keep at it (hopefully)
21. How is it not YOUR fault that you are not getting the outcomes you want. As long as you blame someone else, you aint getting $hit bud, sorry to break it to you but if you would listen up, and put all outcomes you want to create onto your own shoulders, you have a chance of causing those outcomes.
22. Until then, you aint getting jack buckos.
23. You still might not but taking full responsibility is REQUIRED or forget it. If you are blaming your spouse for your outcomes, you will NEVER solve the puzzle. All that does it give you a false sense of being off the hook.
24. Roll up your sleeves and get it done or go find something you can handle but whining will get you more of the same of nothing
2. The female defense is also common that the husband stopped doing something that causes the woman to stop sex and or BJs so the woman's ceasing is entirely justified and fair despite the man's reliance on making decisions about his future with her.
3. If the man does indeed stop doing something that the woman relied on to make decisions about her future with him, isn't bait and switch also if it is intentional? Is it ever intentional? I doubt it is any more intentional that a women's despite shutting down when her husbands stops doing things that make her feel desire to please him.
4. In other words if the man is doing things prior to and in the beginning of marriage and then he stops doing things when married is he not also "guilty" of bait and switch when it is a conscious choice to NOT continue to do what his wife expected would continue? How is it not the same bait and switch the husband accuses the women of? Which came first? Did the husband stop creating feelings of desire within his wife or did his wife stop feeling desire to please first? It matters to determine that before accurate accusations begin doesn't it?
5. Isn't doing things that create expectations and then stopping them once the prize is acquired the very definition of bait and switch only if it is intentional? Is it EVER intentional? I don't think it is in almost all cases of these accusations.
6. Before you get all pi$$ed off, I think it is a cynical foolish view in most cases that someone would go to that level of trouble to fool their spouse ON PURPOSE. It is an UNPLANNED outcome because neither is intentional. It seems all "crimes" (I use the term for effect only) require intent. If their is no intent but instead only some level of common laziness and complacency instead of continuing to invest effort into the marriage.
7. If there is no intent, there is no "crime". Only when sex and BJ's or romance, love and affection are intentionally offered only temporarily and then stopping is planned to trick/deceive your partner into married you can it be bait and switch. Intent is required. That isn't the case. It is not intentional. Rather, these outcomes are a result of a let down from a spouse.
8. Intent must be there for it to be evil instead of a natural outcome of slowly stopping investments into causing the results you want from your partner.
9. No one is obligated to do that which they do not want to do because their spouse had false expectations of what would and would not continue when something else changed between them causing an unwelcome development such as a lack of desire to please the other whether the govong spouse wants to or not.
10. That being said, it would also be nice to know if any woman has honestly EVER intentionally practiced bait and switch by using sex to land a man into marriage with the specific intent to stop offering sex after she had him legally bound up into a situation that would be costly, painful and irritating to get out of?
11. Can any member of the sisterhood ADMIT knowledge of bait and switch with the required intent component.
12. Disclosure: I advocate men to get their $hit together to create the motive in theor spouse to want to please them. Whiners don't like it. It is not essy but it can be done.
13. This bait and switch accusation from husbands has gotten old when the wives say the husband stopped doing things she relied on to make her decisions about a future with him.
14. Let's put this bull$hit to bed.
15. It seems both sides are guilty of complacency and laziness and neither is guilty of intentional deceit. The only guilt is being a $hitty spouse.
16. Solution: stop being a $hitty spouse, figure out how to get the resentments from your Phuck ups out with the trash and get some gud luvin again.
17, If you don't know how or won't take responsibility, then you aint getting any. It's your choice to learn how to inspire your spouse into wanting to please you. If you aren't up for the job, at least stop your whining and admit you are either lazy or unequipped to pull it off.
18. Stop blaming your spouse with faulty bait and switch accusations that are clearly missing the intent needed got the accusation to be legit, and get to work owning your own $hit before you call your spouse intentionally dishonest when it's more likely a short coming on your own behavior that also looks exactly like bait and switch to the other side of the argument.
19. Aren't most of the problems surrounding bad marriages because each spouse does not take FULL responsibility to cause and effect the outcomes they want. GROW UP comes to mind.
20. How do you set out trying to get career results at work for yourself? How do you go about getting parenting results that you desire? By taking full responsibility for those outcomes regardless of how hard it is or confusing it is? You keep at it (hopefully)
21. How is it not YOUR fault that you are not getting the outcomes you want. As long as you blame someone else, you aint getting $hit bud, sorry to break it to you but if you would listen up, and put all outcomes you want to create onto your own shoulders, you have a chance of causing those outcomes.
22. Until then, you aint getting jack buckos.
23. You still might not but taking full responsibility is REQUIRED or forget it. If you are blaming your spouse for your outcomes, you will NEVER solve the puzzle. All that does it give you a false sense of being off the hook.
24. Roll up your sleeves and get it done or go find something you can handle but whining will get you more of the same of nothing
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