First of all, I love my wife very much. She is the person I want to be with for the rest of my life. BUT, not like this. Since we have been together (9 years), she has never held a job longer than a few months. When we first started dating she was fired from her job, after that she has had a few jobs for short periods of time (6 months was the longest I believe, all in the same field). Granted, we agreed that she would stay home while our kids were very young to raise them but they are now 6 and 8. About 2 years ago she decided she wanted to go back to school to get her Masters degree to better her chances of finding a good job. I was, and still am, all for that. She just recently graduated and is on the job hunt. In the time she was in school, I have been supporting us as best I can but we never seem to really ever get caught up on the bills. We have had to "borrow" money from her parents a lot just to survive. It's really bad right now. We are 2 months (going on 3) behind on our mortgage, utilities getting shut off, cell phones getting shut off, etc. I try to prioritize our spending and pay what I can when I can but there is always something that has to suffer.
Here is my real problem: She blames me. Constantly. I make 50k/year doing a job a love. I don't spend money on anything frivolous. The only thing I spend money on for myself is on lunch when I'm working and I try to eat pretty cheap usually (under 5 bucks a day). She is constantly questioning where our money is going and I have shown her a few times in detail that I am simply making just under what we are spending a month. She seems to understand when I explain it but a week or three later she is right back to questioning me. I don't know how much more of this I can take. I work my butt off and make a good wage for barely having a high school education. I keep telling myself that it will get better when she gets a job but I fear that when the money starts coming in she is going to want to spend even more and put us right back where we are now. She is already looking at more expensive homes and is always talking about needing a new car.
I don't know if I really need advice or more or less just needed to vent but I have a hard time being blamed for being broke when she has brought in less than 10k since we have been together and she has the audacity to tell me I don't make enough money.
Here is my real problem: She blames me. Constantly. I make 50k/year doing a job a love. I don't spend money on anything frivolous. The only thing I spend money on for myself is on lunch when I'm working and I try to eat pretty cheap usually (under 5 bucks a day). She is constantly questioning where our money is going and I have shown her a few times in detail that I am simply making just under what we are spending a month. She seems to understand when I explain it but a week or three later she is right back to questioning me. I don't know how much more of this I can take. I work my butt off and make a good wage for barely having a high school education. I keep telling myself that it will get better when she gets a job but I fear that when the money starts coming in she is going to want to spend even more and put us right back where we are now. She is already looking at more expensive homes and is always talking about needing a new car.
I don't know if I really need advice or more or less just needed to vent but I have a hard time being blamed for being broke when she has brought in less than 10k since we have been together and she has the audacity to tell me I don't make enough money.
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