New here, I've been lurking a few days and I'm sure this topic has been discussed a million times, but I'd still like some feedback.
We've been married 17 years, together 20. Got married very young (I was 19). We now have two kids. We have a pretty good relationship, we are compatible, similar outlooks on life, etc, but I just don't feel the passion. And I probably never really have - we were married so young that I'm sure we didn't really know what we were doing - so I tend to think there's no "bringing it back" because it wasn't really there in the first place. I am not LD, but I feel like I am LD with him, yk?
So is a desire for something more a reason to break up a family, disrupt lives and devastate people? I tend to think it isn't, which is why I've stayed so long, but the longer I stay, the more I feel this sense of quiet desperation, like this is it, and I never will have passion or desire in a relationship. Suck it up and deal? Is that fair to my husband? On the other hand, I feel like leaving would kill him.
We've been married 17 years, together 20. Got married very young (I was 19). We now have two kids. We have a pretty good relationship, we are compatible, similar outlooks on life, etc, but I just don't feel the passion. And I probably never really have - we were married so young that I'm sure we didn't really know what we were doing - so I tend to think there's no "bringing it back" because it wasn't really there in the first place. I am not LD, but I feel like I am LD with him, yk?
So is a desire for something more a reason to break up a family, disrupt lives and devastate people? I tend to think it isn't, which is why I've stayed so long, but the longer I stay, the more I feel this sense of quiet desperation, like this is it, and I never will have passion or desire in a relationship. Suck it up and deal? Is that fair to my husband? On the other hand, I feel like leaving would kill him.
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