Married seven years, two children (one with special needs). I moved away from my home province to come up here to marry her after doing the long-distance thing for a while.
Her parents are deeply involved in the lives of our children, while my folks live far away and only get to see them a few times per year. And going back home is always a super-stressful situation for wifey, who feels that traveling with the children is extremely difficult.
Since we were last home, the wife and I took a couple of vacations by ourselves, with my parents actually coming up to look after the little ones while we were gone. Yesterday, we talked about booking a trip back to my home for the first time in over a year and a half.
I was taken aback when my wife said she will only book that trip if we also simultaneously book a trip by ourselves later in the year. And on top of that, she wants me to find out if my parents will come up to look after the kids for that one.
I am seething with rage, and feel that she is trying to hold my long-overdue trip home hostage. I told her as much, and she said she understands, but that she is under a lot of stress and she wants time away from the children. Why that has to hold up our trip back home, she wouldn't say, though she did say it was "unpleasant" traveling with the kids and getting everything ready for them to go.
We've been very close to the brink of separation several times over the past few years, and this is pushing me closer to the edge. Am I overreacting, or is her behavior truly inexcusable?
Her parents are deeply involved in the lives of our children, while my folks live far away and only get to see them a few times per year. And going back home is always a super-stressful situation for wifey, who feels that traveling with the children is extremely difficult.
Since we were last home, the wife and I took a couple of vacations by ourselves, with my parents actually coming up to look after the little ones while we were gone. Yesterday, we talked about booking a trip back to my home for the first time in over a year and a half.
I was taken aback when my wife said she will only book that trip if we also simultaneously book a trip by ourselves later in the year. And on top of that, she wants me to find out if my parents will come up to look after the kids for that one.
I am seething with rage, and feel that she is trying to hold my long-overdue trip home hostage. I told her as much, and she said she understands, but that she is under a lot of stress and she wants time away from the children. Why that has to hold up our trip back home, she wouldn't say, though she did say it was "unpleasant" traveling with the kids and getting everything ready for them to go.
We've been very close to the brink of separation several times over the past few years, and this is pushing me closer to the edge. Am I overreacting, or is her behavior truly inexcusable?
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