How do you define normal and healthy sex life in a bonded committed couple?
Do you think sex a few times a year is normal? If not, how do you confront those who seem to think it is normal?
Do you think denying one spouse sex on a regular basis is normal? Do you think it is how loving people behave toward each other?
Why do so many people seem to so easily subvert their sexuality in order to keep a spouse from calling them perverts?
I say accept the accusations of being perverted! I say embrace your sexuality and make no apologies! I say if your spouse doesn't want to have sex with you on a normal basis it is you DUTY to discover why and to fix all that is in your power to fix.
We only get one life people, one stinking measly life and it is not a long one. Sex is what makes us feel loved, connected, desired and when we feel those things we can better cope with the outside world!
I know I've answered my own question because I KNOW what I consider normal and I would not consider any one else's idea of normal, that is different from mine to be normal.
People make trade offs all the time and we trade sex for not dividing assets. Okay then, if you decide your 401K is more important than enjoying your life prior to retirement, that's your decision to make and you have only yourself to blame for your misery.
We trade sex for the assurance that we will have a spouse to care for us in our golden years. Okay then, so you won't be having sex for the rest of your life but you'll have someone around to help you get down the steps after your hip replacement or when your eyes no longer see depth. Your choice to make and you have no one to blame for your misery.
We trade sex for being able to see our kids on a regular basis. While I personally think this trade off has merit, it doesn't have enough merit, IMO. What is the model your children are inheriting when they see no affection, no romancing, no desire and playfulness between their parents? You are handing down to your children that marriage is cold and affectionless; that this is normal. Is that really what you want your children to learn about marriage? Wouldn't you rather they see what a good marriage looks like? Wouldn't you rather they snicker at hearing their parents making love? Bang on the door and yell "quiet down in there pops!" Isn't that the message our kids should be getting about marriage?
Do you think sex a few times a year is normal? If not, how do you confront those who seem to think it is normal?
Do you think denying one spouse sex on a regular basis is normal? Do you think it is how loving people behave toward each other?
Why do so many people seem to so easily subvert their sexuality in order to keep a spouse from calling them perverts?
I say accept the accusations of being perverted! I say embrace your sexuality and make no apologies! I say if your spouse doesn't want to have sex with you on a normal basis it is you DUTY to discover why and to fix all that is in your power to fix.
We only get one life people, one stinking measly life and it is not a long one. Sex is what makes us feel loved, connected, desired and when we feel those things we can better cope with the outside world!
I know I've answered my own question because I KNOW what I consider normal and I would not consider any one else's idea of normal, that is different from mine to be normal.
People make trade offs all the time and we trade sex for not dividing assets. Okay then, if you decide your 401K is more important than enjoying your life prior to retirement, that's your decision to make and you have only yourself to blame for your misery.
We trade sex for the assurance that we will have a spouse to care for us in our golden years. Okay then, so you won't be having sex for the rest of your life but you'll have someone around to help you get down the steps after your hip replacement or when your eyes no longer see depth. Your choice to make and you have no one to blame for your misery.
We trade sex for being able to see our kids on a regular basis. While I personally think this trade off has merit, it doesn't have enough merit, IMO. What is the model your children are inheriting when they see no affection, no romancing, no desire and playfulness between their parents? You are handing down to your children that marriage is cold and affectionless; that this is normal. Is that really what you want your children to learn about marriage? Wouldn't you rather they see what a good marriage looks like? Wouldn't you rather they snicker at hearing their parents making love? Bang on the door and yell "quiet down in there pops!" Isn't that the message our kids should be getting about marriage?
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