Well, the good news is that my wife's pregnancy is as healthy as can be and we are both very happy for it.
As we near the due date, whenever we meet friends the conversation turns more and more towards pregnancy, child birth and parenting. This is all well and good as everyone has a story to tell and these are topics everyone is interested in.
However as these discussions unfold I notice there is a place we stop and probe no further. The curious questions we do not ask each other because they are too personal, they are uncomfortable and they may reveal unpleasant truths.
Cultural taboos abound around us restricting our sharing of valuable information that I suspect we all are very curious to know.
The questions we do not usually ask are around:
- How is your intimacy like and how did it change throughout pregnancy and after? Yes I am curious about your sex life but also about affection. Not just the quantity and the mechanics but also the quality.
- What are the conflicts that arose in your relationship during pregnancy and after? How did you solve them and what lessons you learned? I am interested in both success and sad stories. I want to know so I can learn your lessons and your wisdom.
These are the questions I would like to ask my friends but I dare not to. Instead I politely concede and stifle my curiosity.
I would like to ask you guys these questions though. We are mostly anonymous and it is amazing how much we can share and how valuable it is.
So, dear anonymous friends. How was your intimacy and your conflicts during pregnancy and after birth? How did it change? What did you learn?
As we near the due date, whenever we meet friends the conversation turns more and more towards pregnancy, child birth and parenting. This is all well and good as everyone has a story to tell and these are topics everyone is interested in.
However as these discussions unfold I notice there is a place we stop and probe no further. The curious questions we do not ask each other because they are too personal, they are uncomfortable and they may reveal unpleasant truths.
Cultural taboos abound around us restricting our sharing of valuable information that I suspect we all are very curious to know.
The questions we do not usually ask are around:
- How is your intimacy like and how did it change throughout pregnancy and after? Yes I am curious about your sex life but also about affection. Not just the quantity and the mechanics but also the quality.
- What are the conflicts that arose in your relationship during pregnancy and after? How did you solve them and what lessons you learned? I am interested in both success and sad stories. I want to know so I can learn your lessons and your wisdom.
These are the questions I would like to ask my friends but I dare not to. Instead I politely concede and stifle my curiosity.
I would like to ask you guys these questions though. We are mostly anonymous and it is amazing how much we can share and how valuable it is.
So, dear anonymous friends. How was your intimacy and your conflicts during pregnancy and after birth? How did it change? What did you learn?
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