Most of you know my story...and as unbelievable as it sounds here I am. After a 2 year R period I am the one that's here considering divorce. I am fighting so hard for my marriage.
My husband has made good strides at being a good dad and he can be a good husband if he wants to be...
Let me start by saying that I am not perfect. I can be moody and I am not 100% on top of everything all of the time. But I can say I am a damn good wife and mother and I feel I am being under appreciated.
I keep the house immaculate, work part time, full time college student and we have a two year old daughter.
My husband makes way more money than I do and he pays the car payment, insurance, health insurance, and his student loan payments, plus his credit cards. I pay the electric, internet and phone, water, tv, and usually I pay for groceries and I have a couple of credit card payments.
I would love to be unified financially. But my husband makes every excuse not to be.
I got hurt on the job and haven't brought in a paycheck for a month. All I hear from him is b!tching and complaining about how he has to pay my bills and that I am going to pay him back.
He got really angry today because I asked if we could go grocery shopping...and that he had to dig into his savings. He gets overly angry about the littlest things...like today I accidentally over loaded the washer and his shirt that he wears to the gym was in there and the load couldn't be dried in one cycle. All I heard was "I can't have it easy, can I? You over filled the f***ing washer!" He then preceded to dry the shirt with my blow dryer. I said I was sorry. He yells at me a lot.
I feel really bad about this, I do feel like I am a burden lately that I cant pull my weight financially...but I work hard. I try my best in every other aspect that I can.
He got beat out of a job he was competing for and he has been taking it really hard...he feels like a failure and I try to make sure I listen and tell him he is in no way a failure and I give him as much affection and understanding as I can.
I know i'm not perfect...but don't I deserve better? Or do I just need to try harder? I don't know what to do.
I don't know, he has apologized but I am at the end of my rope here. Thanks for reading.
My husband has made good strides at being a good dad and he can be a good husband if he wants to be...
Let me start by saying that I am not perfect. I can be moody and I am not 100% on top of everything all of the time. But I can say I am a damn good wife and mother and I feel I am being under appreciated.
I keep the house immaculate, work part time, full time college student and we have a two year old daughter.
My husband makes way more money than I do and he pays the car payment, insurance, health insurance, and his student loan payments, plus his credit cards. I pay the electric, internet and phone, water, tv, and usually I pay for groceries and I have a couple of credit card payments.
I would love to be unified financially. But my husband makes every excuse not to be.
I got hurt on the job and haven't brought in a paycheck for a month. All I hear from him is b!tching and complaining about how he has to pay my bills and that I am going to pay him back.
He got really angry today because I asked if we could go grocery shopping...and that he had to dig into his savings. He gets overly angry about the littlest things...like today I accidentally over loaded the washer and his shirt that he wears to the gym was in there and the load couldn't be dried in one cycle. All I heard was "I can't have it easy, can I? You over filled the f***ing washer!" He then preceded to dry the shirt with my blow dryer. I said I was sorry. He yells at me a lot.
I feel really bad about this, I do feel like I am a burden lately that I cant pull my weight financially...but I work hard. I try my best in every other aspect that I can.
He got beat out of a job he was competing for and he has been taking it really hard...he feels like a failure and I try to make sure I listen and tell him he is in no way a failure and I give him as much affection and understanding as I can.
I know i'm not perfect...but don't I deserve better? Or do I just need to try harder? I don't know what to do.
I don't know, he has apologized but I am at the end of my rope here. Thanks for reading.
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