My fiancee and I are due to be wed in June of this year. She is 25 and I am 31, She is a K-5 substitute teacher, which is great cause we both like kids even though neither of us has any. We live together and will be in a 2 year relationship in April. When we first moved in together, I made it clear that I was in the best shape of my life and didn't want junk food in the house ( I have a food problem ).
She was fine with that, in fact she stopped drinking soda and started eating healthy with me. I was thinking awesome! A hot girlfriend that loves going to the gym with me and someone that I connect emotionally and mentally with. Wow, I may be the luckiest guy in the world! After being together for a year and a half, we decide to get married. I tell my parents, they just don't care, I am fine with that. She tells her parents and they are happy and her mom wants to get together and start planning the wedding. I want a small wedding, she said she does too. We set a limit at 30 people and that was that. She goes to her mom's and comes home and tells me our 30 people has become 125ish, also that I must have 4 groomsmen to match her brides maids. I only have 2 friends that I actually can count on to stand up there with me and I'm not even sure they can make it, because we are getting married in her hometown which is 2 hours from mine.
However, after announcing the wedding, she started blowing off jobs to go see her mom or go to the movies with her friend. Then she would talk about getting a house, but how we couldn't afford it right now. She stopped going to the gym, started eating really bad. She started commenting on how much weight she was gaining and how she wanted to loose it. She comes home from work and jumps straight into her pj's and does nothing for the rest of the night. We had an agreement, I will do the laundry and fold the clothes and she does the dishes, that held true for a month. Now I do the dishes and the laundry.
I understand coming home from working all day and doing household chores isn't what I want to do either, so why not split them up and they get done faster with out one person having to do it all.
Anyway, the reason that drove me looking for some site similar to this one is. For the past week and a half, we have been snowed in together,can't even get out of the parking lot. Since then, I have been seeing a very different side to her. It almost makes me think she is a child.
Example, this morning I get up about an hour before her and start working in the office. She gets up fix's us both some coffee and brings it to me. I thank her and comment to her on how beautiful she is this morning. She asks if I will fix breakfast and I replied with as soon as I get done with these papers, but could you wash me something to cook with while I am finishing up, she said yep and closed the door. About 20 minutes later I walk out of the office and she is sitting on the couch with her laptop on facebook. the dishes are still in the sink. I ask her about them and she whines that she doesn't want to do them this early in the morning. So, I'm like okay, heat up something frozen then and turn to go back to the office. She slams her laptop shut throws it onto the other end of the couch. Stomps to the bedroom screaming it's all your fault. Then later she comes crying about how sorry she is.
There is at least one account of this happening every day we have been couped up together and randomly crying over the past couple of months. I am to the point where I want to call it quits. I don't have children right now and I sure as heck don't want to be married to one. Any advice?
She was fine with that, in fact she stopped drinking soda and started eating healthy with me. I was thinking awesome! A hot girlfriend that loves going to the gym with me and someone that I connect emotionally and mentally with. Wow, I may be the luckiest guy in the world! After being together for a year and a half, we decide to get married. I tell my parents, they just don't care, I am fine with that. She tells her parents and they are happy and her mom wants to get together and start planning the wedding. I want a small wedding, she said she does too. We set a limit at 30 people and that was that. She goes to her mom's and comes home and tells me our 30 people has become 125ish, also that I must have 4 groomsmen to match her brides maids. I only have 2 friends that I actually can count on to stand up there with me and I'm not even sure they can make it, because we are getting married in her hometown which is 2 hours from mine.
However, after announcing the wedding, she started blowing off jobs to go see her mom or go to the movies with her friend. Then she would talk about getting a house, but how we couldn't afford it right now. She stopped going to the gym, started eating really bad. She started commenting on how much weight she was gaining and how she wanted to loose it. She comes home from work and jumps straight into her pj's and does nothing for the rest of the night. We had an agreement, I will do the laundry and fold the clothes and she does the dishes, that held true for a month. Now I do the dishes and the laundry.
I understand coming home from working all day and doing household chores isn't what I want to do either, so why not split them up and they get done faster with out one person having to do it all.
Anyway, the reason that drove me looking for some site similar to this one is. For the past week and a half, we have been snowed in together,can't even get out of the parking lot. Since then, I have been seeing a very different side to her. It almost makes me think she is a child.
Example, this morning I get up about an hour before her and start working in the office. She gets up fix's us both some coffee and brings it to me. I thank her and comment to her on how beautiful she is this morning. She asks if I will fix breakfast and I replied with as soon as I get done with these papers, but could you wash me something to cook with while I am finishing up, she said yep and closed the door. About 20 minutes later I walk out of the office and she is sitting on the couch with her laptop on facebook. the dishes are still in the sink. I ask her about them and she whines that she doesn't want to do them this early in the morning. So, I'm like okay, heat up something frozen then and turn to go back to the office. She slams her laptop shut throws it onto the other end of the couch. Stomps to the bedroom screaming it's all your fault. Then later she comes crying about how sorry she is.
There is at least one account of this happening every day we have been couped up together and randomly crying over the past couple of months. I am to the point where I want to call it quits. I don't have children right now and I sure as heck don't want to be married to one. Any advice?
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