I'm a refugee from the CWI forum, although I do far more lurking than posting. Took me a while to find this place, but I'm glad I did, and I've been reading some of your stories, with gratitude for all of the advice that I've seen so far.
My story, in a nutshell - 10 year relationship, never officially married, but common law and cohabiting. Suspected and then confirmed that she was cheating on me. Laid it all bare last April, and she left.
I'm still living in our formerly shared condo. She stayed with a friend for a while and has now rented her own place. Still hasn't moved all of her stuff out of here.
Caveat - we were a same-sex couple, which I know isn't the norm around here, but I haven't seen anything that would make me think I'm not welcome here :)
Basically, I'm struggling with the same thing that many people here seem to have struggled with...the loss of a shared goal, for lack of a better term. I'm nowhere near ready to date and/or trust again. And I feel like we had this life (that I thought was great), and I had a goal, a plan, a common thing to work towards and make together. Now I'm not sure what the point of it all is. I just feel like I'm drifting along.
So the question (I think) is...how do you find a purpose again? I have a good job, but I don't live to work. And we did not have kids.
My story, in a nutshell - 10 year relationship, never officially married, but common law and cohabiting. Suspected and then confirmed that she was cheating on me. Laid it all bare last April, and she left.
I'm still living in our formerly shared condo. She stayed with a friend for a while and has now rented her own place. Still hasn't moved all of her stuff out of here.
Caveat - we were a same-sex couple, which I know isn't the norm around here, but I haven't seen anything that would make me think I'm not welcome here :)
Basically, I'm struggling with the same thing that many people here seem to have struggled with...the loss of a shared goal, for lack of a better term. I'm nowhere near ready to date and/or trust again. And I feel like we had this life (that I thought was great), and I had a goal, a plan, a common thing to work towards and make together. Now I'm not sure what the point of it all is. I just feel like I'm drifting along.
So the question (I think) is...how do you find a purpose again? I have a good job, but I don't live to work. And we did not have kids.
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