We've been married for almost 4 years now. We have a son together who is 18 months old. He's also been diagnosed with ASD, although I feel he is doing very well.
I work full-time and my wife stays at home with our son. We are a little strapped for cash sometimes but its not terrible. I have side jobs where I earn extra cash to support us.
I just can't seem to make her happy.
It goes way back since before we were married. I would do anything for her, if she was sad and depressed, I would find a way to come home early from work to try and cheer her up.
I remember when I was planning on proposing, there was a time when she was so depressed, I felt like I had to tell her that I was going to propose in order to make her feel better. She was saying something about how she'll never get married.
We also just moved to a new town, away from family and friends. Mainly because both of us wanted to move to a more scenic area, though I also feel it was fueled by non acceptance from family and friends for her.
I'm pretty sure she's been depressed the entire time we've been together, and I've always felt like I could make her happy.
I found this thread which is very similar to my situation: http://ift.tt/1zH0xKk
The only difference is shes also thinks that I don't want to have sex with her. The problem is that I can't 'get it up' some of the time. Its been that way since before we were married, where sometimes I just can't get it to work. That doesn't mean I don't try. I will try to satisfy her all that I can, its almost like a personal goal of mine sometimes to see how many times I can make her come. And of course she takes this as me not being attracted to her, which isn't the case.
Whenever we have an argument about this, she is often saying how shes doesn't feel appreciated. She doesn't feel loved. She doesn't think that I love her. Which frustrates me to no end because the truth is the exact opposite of that. And every time I dig deep to try and explain to her how much I love her, she shrugs it off as if I'm making it all up.
I'm also not a man that can compose his words well. So she is often taking what I say out of context or using them against me.
The issue that brought today's argument on was very similar to other arguments. It's her birthday today. We're both 34 now. We had been planning to make a trip a few hours away for the weekend. We had been talking about the weather there a few days ago, and I said I hadn't looked at it too much yet... so I decided to right there. I look up the weather and she asks what I thought. So I said well the weather doesn't look that great, we could go skiing again here and wait til the next weekend. That's when things started to unravel. Ultimately she didn't think I wanted to go, and didn't think I wanted to make her birthday special... when that's what I've been trying to do for her all day already.
Now I feel stuck and don't know what to do. From the other thread it seems like I need to find our selves a therapist and I need to work on myself so she respects me more.
Thanks for reading.
I work full-time and my wife stays at home with our son. We are a little strapped for cash sometimes but its not terrible. I have side jobs where I earn extra cash to support us.
I just can't seem to make her happy.
It goes way back since before we were married. I would do anything for her, if she was sad and depressed, I would find a way to come home early from work to try and cheer her up.
I remember when I was planning on proposing, there was a time when she was so depressed, I felt like I had to tell her that I was going to propose in order to make her feel better. She was saying something about how she'll never get married.
We also just moved to a new town, away from family and friends. Mainly because both of us wanted to move to a more scenic area, though I also feel it was fueled by non acceptance from family and friends for her.
I'm pretty sure she's been depressed the entire time we've been together, and I've always felt like I could make her happy.
I found this thread which is very similar to my situation: http://ift.tt/1zH0xKk
The only difference is shes also thinks that I don't want to have sex with her. The problem is that I can't 'get it up' some of the time. Its been that way since before we were married, where sometimes I just can't get it to work. That doesn't mean I don't try. I will try to satisfy her all that I can, its almost like a personal goal of mine sometimes to see how many times I can make her come. And of course she takes this as me not being attracted to her, which isn't the case.
Whenever we have an argument about this, she is often saying how shes doesn't feel appreciated. She doesn't feel loved. She doesn't think that I love her. Which frustrates me to no end because the truth is the exact opposite of that. And every time I dig deep to try and explain to her how much I love her, she shrugs it off as if I'm making it all up.
I'm also not a man that can compose his words well. So she is often taking what I say out of context or using them against me.
The issue that brought today's argument on was very similar to other arguments. It's her birthday today. We're both 34 now. We had been planning to make a trip a few hours away for the weekend. We had been talking about the weather there a few days ago, and I said I hadn't looked at it too much yet... so I decided to right there. I look up the weather and she asks what I thought. So I said well the weather doesn't look that great, we could go skiing again here and wait til the next weekend. That's when things started to unravel. Ultimately she didn't think I wanted to go, and didn't think I wanted to make her birthday special... when that's what I've been trying to do for her all day already.
Now I feel stuck and don't know what to do. From the other thread it seems like I need to find our selves a therapist and I need to work on myself so she respects me more.
Thanks for reading.
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