Hello all.
We are having hard times. We been together for 3 years 4 months. We already have 2 years old child. We had issues before due to my mother came to see us unannounced from oversees and she wanted me to put her in hotel. I try to convince her and she said it is fine, she will go to her friend. But it was not fine. Since then(it has been 1.5years since then). Ever since, she gets frustrated everything I do. Even very little things. We are not officially married. I tried to tell her a few times I want to get married to her officially. But we had complicated work and insurance status, so it was complicated. But I wanted to purpose anyways.
Stupid me, first we had an argument for something small right before the Valentines days. I was planning to purpose her. I am not very romantic or creative when it comes to relation ship. I did not have many girl friend, and the ones I had did not last long due to insecurity I had(my job was far from prestigious, language, financial and no time due to work).
Anyways, I came up with this idea. I was going to pain(I am terrible painter) me on my knees purposing her and showing a ring. I wrote her a nice poem. And stick a cheap ring to the card(it was a place holder till the next day I take her to jewelery store. She is so picky).
Now she thinks I humiliated her. In my head it was going to be funny, but nice. But she thinks I humiliated her. She thinks this is a joke for me. Now she wants to leave me. She said moment is passed. I had so much time to purpose and now I ruined it all.
However, it always goes back to 18 months ago to the issue with my mother. She thinks I did not stick up with her.
She has no family and my family is not reliable and they are oversees.
Is she over reacting or I totally screwed up. I know I could have done better job purposing, but I started to think whatever I do was not gonna cut it due to the this issue.
She said she cant forgive and she cant forget.
Also I screwed up anothertime when I did not introduce her to my family when we were dating or she was pregnant(earl stage). But not because I did not want to. I am just not good with the family. I am 10.000 miles away and since I been her in US, I call them once in 2-3 months at best.
already? Also we have no sex life even since she was pregnant or before all these issues started. Her reasoning is she does not feel pretty anymore.
Is there a hope for me? I really love her and I could have handled things differently, If I had a second chance. But what's done is done. I really love her and I do not want to give up on her. We also have a child together. I feel like even things get better, she will just stay with me for the child. But I want her to love me again.
Is there anyways to fix it? or I screwed up so many times
We are having hard times. We been together for 3 years 4 months. We already have 2 years old child. We had issues before due to my mother came to see us unannounced from oversees and she wanted me to put her in hotel. I try to convince her and she said it is fine, she will go to her friend. But it was not fine. Since then(it has been 1.5years since then). Ever since, she gets frustrated everything I do. Even very little things. We are not officially married. I tried to tell her a few times I want to get married to her officially. But we had complicated work and insurance status, so it was complicated. But I wanted to purpose anyways.
Stupid me, first we had an argument for something small right before the Valentines days. I was planning to purpose her. I am not very romantic or creative when it comes to relation ship. I did not have many girl friend, and the ones I had did not last long due to insecurity I had(my job was far from prestigious, language, financial and no time due to work).
Anyways, I came up with this idea. I was going to pain(I am terrible painter) me on my knees purposing her and showing a ring. I wrote her a nice poem. And stick a cheap ring to the card(it was a place holder till the next day I take her to jewelery store. She is so picky).
Now she thinks I humiliated her. In my head it was going to be funny, but nice. But she thinks I humiliated her. She thinks this is a joke for me. Now she wants to leave me. She said moment is passed. I had so much time to purpose and now I ruined it all.
However, it always goes back to 18 months ago to the issue with my mother. She thinks I did not stick up with her.
She has no family and my family is not reliable and they are oversees.
Is she over reacting or I totally screwed up. I know I could have done better job purposing, but I started to think whatever I do was not gonna cut it due to the this issue.
She said she cant forgive and she cant forget.
Also I screwed up anothertime when I did not introduce her to my family when we were dating or she was pregnant(earl stage). But not because I did not want to. I am just not good with the family. I am 10.000 miles away and since I been her in US, I call them once in 2-3 months at best.
already? Also we have no sex life even since she was pregnant or before all these issues started. Her reasoning is she does not feel pretty anymore.
Is there a hope for me? I really love her and I could have handled things differently, If I had a second chance. But what's done is done. I really love her and I do not want to give up on her. We also have a child together. I feel like even things get better, she will just stay with me for the child. But I want her to love me again.
Is there anyways to fix it? or I screwed up so many times
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