What do you have the right to know from/about your spouse?
This question came up in another thread, specifically what do you have the right to know, and I have been pondering it. I am not sure what the legal answer is. I am thinking that pretty much anything outside of legal boundaries would be according to the free will of your spouse. Or whatever you can negotiate. :D
I think the desire to control and set boundaries for a spouse is pretty common. We all think we know best. But I am not sure we grow much from getting our way through controlling (or trying to control) a spouse. We probably just focus on learning to be better controllers, I guess. But I don't think we grow much as people.
The reality is that we have free will. I am thinking the only real power we have in marriage is the influence gained by earning our spouse's trust. If they trust us, they are more likely to open up to us, to be vulnerable. And it is that vulnerability that deepens our emotional connection, that sustains our marriage, that inspires the free will giving from one to another.
This question came up in another thread, specifically what do you have the right to know, and I have been pondering it. I am not sure what the legal answer is. I am thinking that pretty much anything outside of legal boundaries would be according to the free will of your spouse. Or whatever you can negotiate. :D
I think the desire to control and set boundaries for a spouse is pretty common. We all think we know best. But I am not sure we grow much from getting our way through controlling (or trying to control) a spouse. We probably just focus on learning to be better controllers, I guess. But I don't think we grow much as people.
The reality is that we have free will. I am thinking the only real power we have in marriage is the influence gained by earning our spouse's trust. If they trust us, they are more likely to open up to us, to be vulnerable. And it is that vulnerability that deepens our emotional connection, that sustains our marriage, that inspires the free will giving from one to another.
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