I don't understand anger, where it comes from and how to deal with it. I have been married for over 26 years and in all those years my husband has had anger management issues. In the beginning of our marriage I though a lot of it was because he was so immature ,we got married at 18 , had a baby and he went into the military. His mood swings would go up and down. Most of his outbursts are related to sports or some sort of competition or sometimes just pure frustration when something doesn't work or go his way .These outburst are so dramatic with loud cursing , lots of negativity and sometimes the throwing of stuff. He has never been violent towards me or my kids but with his temper rising he has on a few occasions over the years been verbally rude. The odd thing is he is not like this all the time and then it's like a light switch and the temper comes out and it's embarrassing and just plain immature when he acts this way and yes he has acted this way in public but a more toned down version then if he were home.I don't know how to handle it. If I say something during the heat of the moment it's worse. He has over the years dealt with depression and in the last year and half has been on meds . He has tried a few that didn't work and now he has been on one that seems to be working so his general mood is good but when that temper starts it's very difficult for him to control. In the past I have suggested anger management classes and about 10 years ago he went to a couple and then stopped. It's frustrating and hard for me to understand. We have raised 3 kids her are all adults, we both are hard workers and are financially stable. I just feel life is too short to stress over stupid stuff .
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