I've just watched this Jackson Katz: Violence against womenâ€"it's a men's issue | Talk Video | TED.com which is an interesting talk about empowering men to tackle the issue of male violence, and generally change the culture of gender violence. One of the biggest statements he made was that:
"Your silence is a form of consent. Of complicity."
This really struck me, because I was actually on here just now looking for advice, because I just left a social setting where a complete stranger started abusing me in front of my husband and my BIL simply because I had an opinion too, calling me a "fat sl*t, stupid wh*re etc" and my husband didn't say ANYTHING (my BIL ended up telling the guy to can it and go away".) But I know when I bring it up with husband tonight he's just going to say "I figured you can handle yourself". But his silence has made me feel sick, and I can't help to think a little less of him now.
Can anyone share their opinions or experiences with "complicit silence". Why is it so hard to have a voice? Why would someone NOT speak up?
"Your silence is a form of consent. Of complicity."
This really struck me, because I was actually on here just now looking for advice, because I just left a social setting where a complete stranger started abusing me in front of my husband and my BIL simply because I had an opinion too, calling me a "fat sl*t, stupid wh*re etc" and my husband didn't say ANYTHING (my BIL ended up telling the guy to can it and go away".) But I know when I bring it up with husband tonight he's just going to say "I figured you can handle yourself". But his silence has made me feel sick, and I can't help to think a little less of him now.
Can anyone share their opinions or experiences with "complicit silence". Why is it so hard to have a voice? Why would someone NOT speak up?
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