The other day my husband and I were supposed to go to the movies. We made last minute plans and when I got ready and he was getting ready he said how about we call my brother (his) to come along. I was not really okay with this as I wanted to spend some alone time with him. He however called him even after I made a 'uhgghh.. noo.. really?' kinda face. He said okay and I got irritated. We were supposed to go out for drinks after the movie and now I felt like the brother was going to tag along. I said why did you do that? I didnt want to hang out with your brother. I wanted alone time tonight. He started saying he doesnt get to spend that much time with the brother as he is studying and works weekends and he is home in christmas time so he wants to utilize this. Now I should have let it go but I said but he studies only an hour away, its not like across the country, and you act like you havent seen him so long when you hung out with him today (they went sho pping together for a couple of hours) and last night we hosted his family for dinner where his brother came too! And they will be meeting for christmas dinner too. Anyways, he said well we are going over to see your family for new years and I will not be here for his winter break! I mean his brother first of all prefers to hang out with his friends not family most of the time in my opinion.. Also my family lives across the country and he is only going for a week with me to visit them. I hardly think this is fair to even compare my situation with his cause his family bloody lives HERE and my family I get to see every 6 months only for two weeks! He visits them once a year if at that. His brother lives and works and studies an hour away by car.
Anyways we were already arguing over this and i was making it a bigger deal that it needed to be I recognise that but I got so mad about him bringing up visiting my fam as that has nothing to do with anything in my opinion. I then said well 'its not my fault if your brother doersnt want to hang out with you as much as you do with him'. He got so mad (you see he is very close to his fam)..saying I disrespected his brother and I am stupid to cause rift between them for no reason causing him to resent me etc. I said sorry but felt he didnt have to make it such a big deal or bring the fact that he is not going to be here in new years as that is so unrelated. i only get to see my family half the time than he does and actually its even less than that! We got into a unnecessary big fight where he felt I was being very rude. THEN he left with the keys to watch the movie with his brother when I was already dressed!! We share a car! I mean how callous of him right? Isnt that too much? Am I overeeacting? i just feel like he should have fought with me either after the movie or cancelled the movie. He said he left because I wasnt saying sorry and he wasnt going to ruin his time by cancelling the movie. he said he cant win with me as if he leaves he is the bad guy and if he stays he will be loosing cause I dont acknowledge how I hurt him or disrespected his brother. After he came back, I didnt talk to him at all, then next day he said arnt you sorry this that. I then said yes, I'm sorry and I didnt mean to be rude.. I spoke before thinking which was selfish and bratty of me BUT him leaving was worst. How could he do that? He is callous bully etc. He said well thats what you get cause you act like a bratty child to me and if you talk about my brother or fam like that again I will leave! He refused to say he wont do this again! He refuses to give me the apology I want. He is treating me with so much callous disregard right!?? I already apologized for being rude about his brother, I just wanted some alone time.
He says I am not giving him the apology he wants as i dont feel bad or show I feel bad about saying all those things...I just think that he thinks he can get away with abrutly leaving me even after we both decide together we are going to watch the movies because i dont have a job right now. I think he thinks he can walk all over me... cause i hurt his feelings and was a little insensitive about his family. I havent talked to him and he isnt talking to me. I really dislike him right now!
Anyways we were already arguing over this and i was making it a bigger deal that it needed to be I recognise that but I got so mad about him bringing up visiting my fam as that has nothing to do with anything in my opinion. I then said well 'its not my fault if your brother doersnt want to hang out with you as much as you do with him'. He got so mad (you see he is very close to his fam)..saying I disrespected his brother and I am stupid to cause rift between them for no reason causing him to resent me etc. I said sorry but felt he didnt have to make it such a big deal or bring the fact that he is not going to be here in new years as that is so unrelated. i only get to see my family half the time than he does and actually its even less than that! We got into a unnecessary big fight where he felt I was being very rude. THEN he left with the keys to watch the movie with his brother when I was already dressed!! We share a car! I mean how callous of him right? Isnt that too much? Am I overeeacting? i just feel like he should have fought with me either after the movie or cancelled the movie. He said he left because I wasnt saying sorry and he wasnt going to ruin his time by cancelling the movie. he said he cant win with me as if he leaves he is the bad guy and if he stays he will be loosing cause I dont acknowledge how I hurt him or disrespected his brother. After he came back, I didnt talk to him at all, then next day he said arnt you sorry this that. I then said yes, I'm sorry and I didnt mean to be rude.. I spoke before thinking which was selfish and bratty of me BUT him leaving was worst. How could he do that? He is callous bully etc. He said well thats what you get cause you act like a bratty child to me and if you talk about my brother or fam like that again I will leave! He refused to say he wont do this again! He refuses to give me the apology I want. He is treating me with so much callous disregard right!?? I already apologized for being rude about his brother, I just wanted some alone time.
He says I am not giving him the apology he wants as i dont feel bad or show I feel bad about saying all those things...I just think that he thinks he can get away with abrutly leaving me even after we both decide together we are going to watch the movies because i dont have a job right now. I think he thinks he can walk all over me... cause i hurt his feelings and was a little insensitive about his family. I havent talked to him and he isnt talking to me. I really dislike him right now!
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