I've been lurking here for a few months while trying to figure out how to put my situation into words. I'm in a financial and personal relationship that I don't know how to to handle. I've been married to my current wife for about 17 years. It is my second marriage and her third. She has 1 son from her 1st marriage and I have 2 from mine. When we first met she told me how she never expected anyone to financially support her and that she was able to earn her own income. Also that she didn't believe in credit cards and she didn't buy anything unless she had the cash. So, we moved forward with out relationship. We got married in 1997 and I was working. I thought that I had someone to act as a financial safety net is case of losing my job and vice versa. In a nutshell, since I got my married she lost her job and never bothered to find another but kept coming up with money making schemes that required me to work and her to "Work from home".
I'm going to end up turning this into a book. But she hasn't worked in 15 years and feels that I should be supporting her. She bring a small amount of money each money from when she filed early Social Security benefits (less than $900/month) and expects me to cover the rest. She told me that she could make up to a certain amount on top of the benefits. She said she could but never that she WOULD.
I don't know what to do. It's been a running argument for the past 3 years. She just lays around the house and does minimal (minimal is just doing laundry for the 2 of us and cooking when she feels like it) but most times she doesn't feel like cooking so she wants me to pick up take-out.
I've been unemployed about 3 times during our marriage and she has NEVER pitched in to help earn any money. I have a potential job offer coming and I don't want her to know my income or the company I'm going to work for. Is there a law that states that I have to disclose this to her. Employed or unemployed I'm stuck with paying the rent, auto insurance, the judgments that I got stuck with when she didn't pay the credit cards when she was suppose to manage the household money. What she was suppose to pay for was cable TV, cell phones, electric, & gas & groceries. I thought this would force her to go out and find a job. Instead we've had our electric shut off. She just uses her SS benefits and expects me to make up the difference. This situation has slowly evolved over the last few years. I am worse off now than before I met her.
I'm going to end up turning this into a book. But she hasn't worked in 15 years and feels that I should be supporting her. She bring a small amount of money each money from when she filed early Social Security benefits (less than $900/month) and expects me to cover the rest. She told me that she could make up to a certain amount on top of the benefits. She said she could but never that she WOULD.
I don't know what to do. It's been a running argument for the past 3 years. She just lays around the house and does minimal (minimal is just doing laundry for the 2 of us and cooking when she feels like it) but most times she doesn't feel like cooking so she wants me to pick up take-out.
I've been unemployed about 3 times during our marriage and she has NEVER pitched in to help earn any money. I have a potential job offer coming and I don't want her to know my income or the company I'm going to work for. Is there a law that states that I have to disclose this to her. Employed or unemployed I'm stuck with paying the rent, auto insurance, the judgments that I got stuck with when she didn't pay the credit cards when she was suppose to manage the household money. What she was suppose to pay for was cable TV, cell phones, electric, & gas & groceries. I thought this would force her to go out and find a job. Instead we've had our electric shut off. She just uses her SS benefits and expects me to make up the difference. This situation has slowly evolved over the last few years. I am worse off now than before I met her.
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