I havent been on here in a couple years. Probably because I just gave up. It was easier to go through the motions than deal with my problems, and I am sorry for that.
Anyhow, about a month ago my husband and I had a terrible fight. He was drunk. This entire argument started over they way i was preparing lunch. It was a wonder I could even make lunch considering I had been so sick the week before. Anyway, he grabbed the pans off the stove and threw everything away outside. Of course when he came back in the house the argument continued. He got so mad he threw me into the dining room table. I have a big lead glass cake plate on top of my table. My nose hit it and cracked. From there he pulled me by my hair into the living room. I got away and called 911. The adrenaline was so high I didnt realize exactly what happened to my nose. Police came and he denied it. They basically told him there is NO WAY i could have caused that injury to myself. They got my statement and my 18 year old son. My son was in his room and told them he didnt see anything but heard me screaming. My heart is still broken by this.
I called his mom, who blamed me. She said between what I buy on amazon.com, my son in college, and husbands work hours, he was pushed to that point. She said I deliberately upset him. I went to court the next day. His mother was there and bonded him out. I didnt realize she was going to go. She told me that morning "you better have your butt in that court room to show support for ****" Then she called me and said she was going because "i just cant concentrate until I know **** is ok" The court hearing was the day after the fight so both eyes were black and nose significantly swollen. My mother in law told me "its not THAT bad" and "you can cover it up" She said "you made it sound like you had two HUGE black eyes"
My husband has sworn off drinking and was ordered to 1 year of counseling, plus a fine. . He wants everything back to normal , minus the drinking.
I am not sure what to do. I really do not know if he is truly sorry or stressed he was caught. I know for certain without alcohol involved this would have never happened.
My son graduates and leaves for the army in a few months. Not sure this is the time to turn everything upside down.
Also holidays are coming up. I really dont think my relationship with my mother in law can ever be repaired. I know for a fact I could never look at an injured human being, knowing my child hurt them and blame the person hurt. Im actually more angry at her. Which is stupid. At least I can say my husband was drunk. She is sober and is saying I brought this on. Husband is 180 lbs and I am 120 lbs. Not once did she ask if i was alright, needed a doctor or most of all how my son was handling the situation. All of the concern has been about my husband.
My husbands defense is that he was drunk..plain and simple thats it. He hast drank since this happened. I cant get over it though.
On top of everything, the incident was publicized in our community. My sister texted me that "due to the drama we wont be spending the holidays anywhere around you" I cant say that I blame her.
So here we are/ Tomorrow is thanksgiving and once again I am biting my lip to get through a day in light of my "real life"
Anyhow, about a month ago my husband and I had a terrible fight. He was drunk. This entire argument started over they way i was preparing lunch. It was a wonder I could even make lunch considering I had been so sick the week before. Anyway, he grabbed the pans off the stove and threw everything away outside. Of course when he came back in the house the argument continued. He got so mad he threw me into the dining room table. I have a big lead glass cake plate on top of my table. My nose hit it and cracked. From there he pulled me by my hair into the living room. I got away and called 911. The adrenaline was so high I didnt realize exactly what happened to my nose. Police came and he denied it. They basically told him there is NO WAY i could have caused that injury to myself. They got my statement and my 18 year old son. My son was in his room and told them he didnt see anything but heard me screaming. My heart is still broken by this.
I called his mom, who blamed me. She said between what I buy on amazon.com, my son in college, and husbands work hours, he was pushed to that point. She said I deliberately upset him. I went to court the next day. His mother was there and bonded him out. I didnt realize she was going to go. She told me that morning "you better have your butt in that court room to show support for ****" Then she called me and said she was going because "i just cant concentrate until I know **** is ok" The court hearing was the day after the fight so both eyes were black and nose significantly swollen. My mother in law told me "its not THAT bad" and "you can cover it up" She said "you made it sound like you had two HUGE black eyes"
My husband has sworn off drinking and was ordered to 1 year of counseling, plus a fine. . He wants everything back to normal , minus the drinking.
I am not sure what to do. I really do not know if he is truly sorry or stressed he was caught. I know for certain without alcohol involved this would have never happened.
My son graduates and leaves for the army in a few months. Not sure this is the time to turn everything upside down.
Also holidays are coming up. I really dont think my relationship with my mother in law can ever be repaired. I know for a fact I could never look at an injured human being, knowing my child hurt them and blame the person hurt. Im actually more angry at her. Which is stupid. At least I can say my husband was drunk. She is sober and is saying I brought this on. Husband is 180 lbs and I am 120 lbs. Not once did she ask if i was alright, needed a doctor or most of all how my son was handling the situation. All of the concern has been about my husband.
My husbands defense is that he was drunk..plain and simple thats it. He hast drank since this happened. I cant get over it though.
On top of everything, the incident was publicized in our community. My sister texted me that "due to the drama we wont be spending the holidays anywhere around you" I cant say that I blame her.
So here we are/ Tomorrow is thanksgiving and once again I am biting my lip to get through a day in light of my "real life"
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