I haven't been surfing on TAM lately because I am settling into my single life as best as I can and mostly feel I am doing pretty good, considering I was married 32 years and my husband suddenly decided he was done and moved across the country to live near his high school girlfriend. I was terrified at first, being a stay at home mom and not having any job skills. I managed to get a good lawyer and have four more years of alimony/ child support (my youngest is now in college so not really in need of much support).
Anyway, I took computer classes and got a good part time job, and am planning on selling my house and getting the cheapest, smallest place I can find, and have plans to live a quiet, single, downsized life and Plan on being happy doing it.
My ex and me were talking about the kids and what to do for them for Christmas and such, and at the end of the convo he asks, "so, who's the beneficiary on your retirement fund?" I told him my kids are, and he says"well, I kept you as my beneficiary, and I think you should have me as yours". I told him the kids should be beneficiary to his retirement fund,not me. Then he says"well that money is mine(talking about my share of the retirement fund from the divorce) and it should go back to me if anything happens to you"
I was shocked, and the conversation ended and we hung up. WTF?
Does he not understand what it means to be divorced? I have no thoughts or plans for his retirement money, and don't understand why he thinks he should get my share if I die? He loves to play games with my emotions, so now he's laying some guilt trip on me because I'm leaving my share of the money we saved to my kids and not him? Opinions please! Thanks.
Anyway, I took computer classes and got a good part time job, and am planning on selling my house and getting the cheapest, smallest place I can find, and have plans to live a quiet, single, downsized life and Plan on being happy doing it.
My ex and me were talking about the kids and what to do for them for Christmas and such, and at the end of the convo he asks, "so, who's the beneficiary on your retirement fund?" I told him my kids are, and he says"well, I kept you as my beneficiary, and I think you should have me as yours". I told him the kids should be beneficiary to his retirement fund,not me. Then he says"well that money is mine(talking about my share of the retirement fund from the divorce) and it should go back to me if anything happens to you"
I was shocked, and the conversation ended and we hung up. WTF?
Does he not understand what it means to be divorced? I have no thoughts or plans for his retirement money, and don't understand why he thinks he should get my share if I die? He loves to play games with my emotions, so now he's laying some guilt trip on me because I'm leaving my share of the money we saved to my kids and not him? Opinions please! Thanks.
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