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I need unbiased advice on in-law issues.
My husband and I have been married 6 years. We were friends long before we started dating and getting married. We have a total of 4 kids combined. He has 2 prior to our relationship and I have one prior to our relationship, and we also share a son together.
I never really knew his family prior to us dating.. When he hit some hard times in his life, i was in his corner and helped him out A LOT. His mom couldn't or wouldn't help him, I don't know. But I was there. She saw the money I invested in him to help and she was saying how she liked me and wanted us to be together and etc. Well after some time, him and I admitted our feelings for each other and started dating and got married. During the first 3 years of our relationship, his Mom, sister, and myself got along ok. I never had much of a relationship with his sister, mainly because she is a trip, and we don't have a lot in common. I would help her with her resume's here and there for jobs but that was it. There were no Hard feelings between us though.
There came a time where him and I both lost our jobs at the same time and had to move in with my mother. My mom, supported us briefly, and Helped him find work, bought him interview suits, did everything his Mother should have been doing. During this time, his mom won some lottery money, and never Offered to help her son. EVER! she supported his sister, who was grown and living on her own, bought her a car, things for her new baby etc. but him, they NEVER helped. Anyway, I have been going through A LOT emotionally, physically, and I have a special needs daughter who i've been dealing with as well, and kind of with drew from his family.
They never reach out to our son, call to check on him, ask to come spend time with him or even visit for that matter. I withdrew because i needed time to heal, and I honestly believe they have this assumtpion about me and my mom, that isn't true. Once his mom had the audacity to say, that my mom thinks he's not good enough for me, and doesn't like him.. When she over heard an argument him and i had. I was floored. because this woman has never lifted one finger to help her son EVER and she was fully capable of doing so.. yet when he was doing well, she was always taking money from him, telling him she loved him, and his sister is the same way.
Well, I reached out to them a few times to let them know I was sorry for not coming around much and i had so much going on and would love to sit with them and talk so they would know what's been going on... No response.. I have text his sister and she refuses to respond. I have even liked posts on her face book page, made comments, sent her messages just reaching out. I get completely ignored. I haven't seen them in almost 2 years.
It bothers me, because I KNOW, i have done nothing to them. Yet, the are acting funny. It's like now that I've fallen on hard times.. I'm no longer a favorite of theirs. When I could take care of their son, all was great! now things are different. He's been so supportive and amazing. he helps me and is there for me like a husband should be. When I asked why they were like that.. he just said, that's just how they are. It's more than that. but i don't know how to approach this situation or talk about it. but it does bother me. Should i just let it go?
I need unbiased advice on in-law issues.
My husband and I have been married 6 years. We were friends long before we started dating and getting married. We have a total of 4 kids combined. He has 2 prior to our relationship and I have one prior to our relationship, and we also share a son together.
I never really knew his family prior to us dating.. When he hit some hard times in his life, i was in his corner and helped him out A LOT. His mom couldn't or wouldn't help him, I don't know. But I was there. She saw the money I invested in him to help and she was saying how she liked me and wanted us to be together and etc. Well after some time, him and I admitted our feelings for each other and started dating and got married. During the first 3 years of our relationship, his Mom, sister, and myself got along ok. I never had much of a relationship with his sister, mainly because she is a trip, and we don't have a lot in common. I would help her with her resume's here and there for jobs but that was it. There were no Hard feelings between us though.
There came a time where him and I both lost our jobs at the same time and had to move in with my mother. My mom, supported us briefly, and Helped him find work, bought him interview suits, did everything his Mother should have been doing. During this time, his mom won some lottery money, and never Offered to help her son. EVER! she supported his sister, who was grown and living on her own, bought her a car, things for her new baby etc. but him, they NEVER helped. Anyway, I have been going through A LOT emotionally, physically, and I have a special needs daughter who i've been dealing with as well, and kind of with drew from his family.
They never reach out to our son, call to check on him, ask to come spend time with him or even visit for that matter. I withdrew because i needed time to heal, and I honestly believe they have this assumtpion about me and my mom, that isn't true. Once his mom had the audacity to say, that my mom thinks he's not good enough for me, and doesn't like him.. When she over heard an argument him and i had. I was floored. because this woman has never lifted one finger to help her son EVER and she was fully capable of doing so.. yet when he was doing well, she was always taking money from him, telling him she loved him, and his sister is the same way.
Well, I reached out to them a few times to let them know I was sorry for not coming around much and i had so much going on and would love to sit with them and talk so they would know what's been going on... No response.. I have text his sister and she refuses to respond. I have even liked posts on her face book page, made comments, sent her messages just reaching out. I get completely ignored. I haven't seen them in almost 2 years.
It bothers me, because I KNOW, i have done nothing to them. Yet, the are acting funny. It's like now that I've fallen on hard times.. I'm no longer a favorite of theirs. When I could take care of their son, all was great! now things are different. He's been so supportive and amazing. he helps me and is there for me like a husband should be. When I asked why they were like that.. he just said, that's just how they are. It's more than that. but i don't know how to approach this situation or talk about it. but it does bother me. Should i just let it go?
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