okay, before anyone reading this, try to not judge, because everyone have their own circumstances in life. What works for you in a marriage, might not work for me in a marriage, or vice versa. So just gonna bare with it, if our marriage style is different than you okay.
Me and my man is a couple who are NOT successful, but we both do have our own jobs, and our own income; we both are not poor, just not rich.
Know him four years, been dating steady almost a year. All our dates have been split half half, 50/50, I am the one that suggest to help him out on the bills, so don't blame him.
He have no choice but to accept my style, or else he won't get any 'date' or time with me.
I do give him the freedom to go find other girls to date though; if he happen to think 'me paying my own ways' is offended to him.
We do talk about marriage, given we live in the same neighborhood, and with the close distance, things are going 10 times faster than others farther distant couples out there. As freaky as it is, try dating your neighbor and you will now how fast it can progress.
So this list is what I request in our marriage, he knows it too well, and he fully agree to it.
Do men out there find any of my requirements it too much to ask in him? Or would you married a girl with this list of requirements in marriage?
1. We both are and going to be Financially independent, seperate bank/saving account.
I will give him full freedom in control of his own money. He needs to be responsible of his saving for emergency time, same to me as well.
I CHOOSE to be financially independent because if one day I ever find out he cheats on me, I have the Financial freedom leave him immediately.
2. I will pay one month of mortgage, he pay next month mortgage. All other household bills will be split half half, or he pay this month, I pay next month, evenly distributed.
2. I will continue to work after married, he have no choice but accept that his wife will be working.
His side of the family is big enough, so his mom or a family member can help watch the kids until one of us got back from work.
3. I will cook and clean, and he will fixed things around the house, cars, the hard household stuff that 'men' do
4. We both need to make an effort to communicate, any disagreement/arguments will be solve on the dinner table after the kids sleep.
Disagreement will not bring it to our bedroom or hold off till next day or weekend.
4. He can't go to strip clubs, can't cheats on me.
He have the freedom to sometimes go out with his male buddies, just balance his time with his wife and kids first.
BUT He does NOT have the freedom to go out alone with any female friends.
5. If one day I no longer can satisfy his emotional/physical needs, or if he fall out of love on me:
I will give him the full freedom to go be with another woman, under one condition: he MUST PROMISE to tell me first. NO need to cheats, just tell me first, then I let him go free.
We will share custody of our kids.
He probably can recite this list in his sleep by now, my poor boyfriend, lol
And if u wonder how old are we, I'm 30, he 29
So any men out there, do you think my list is unreasonable or too much to ask in him to fulfill as a husband?
Me and my man is a couple who are NOT successful, but we both do have our own jobs, and our own income; we both are not poor, just not rich.
Know him four years, been dating steady almost a year. All our dates have been split half half, 50/50, I am the one that suggest to help him out on the bills, so don't blame him.
He have no choice but to accept my style, or else he won't get any 'date' or time with me.
I do give him the freedom to go find other girls to date though; if he happen to think 'me paying my own ways' is offended to him.
We do talk about marriage, given we live in the same neighborhood, and with the close distance, things are going 10 times faster than others farther distant couples out there. As freaky as it is, try dating your neighbor and you will now how fast it can progress.
So this list is what I request in our marriage, he knows it too well, and he fully agree to it.
Do men out there find any of my requirements it too much to ask in him? Or would you married a girl with this list of requirements in marriage?
1. We both are and going to be Financially independent, seperate bank/saving account.
I will give him full freedom in control of his own money. He needs to be responsible of his saving for emergency time, same to me as well.
I CHOOSE to be financially independent because if one day I ever find out he cheats on me, I have the Financial freedom leave him immediately.
2. I will pay one month of mortgage, he pay next month mortgage. All other household bills will be split half half, or he pay this month, I pay next month, evenly distributed.
2. I will continue to work after married, he have no choice but accept that his wife will be working.
His side of the family is big enough, so his mom or a family member can help watch the kids until one of us got back from work.
3. I will cook and clean, and he will fixed things around the house, cars, the hard household stuff that 'men' do
4. We both need to make an effort to communicate, any disagreement/arguments will be solve on the dinner table after the kids sleep.
Disagreement will not bring it to our bedroom or hold off till next day or weekend.
4. He can't go to strip clubs, can't cheats on me.
He have the freedom to sometimes go out with his male buddies, just balance his time with his wife and kids first.
BUT He does NOT have the freedom to go out alone with any female friends.
5. If one day I no longer can satisfy his emotional/physical needs, or if he fall out of love on me:
I will give him the full freedom to go be with another woman, under one condition: he MUST PROMISE to tell me first. NO need to cheats, just tell me first, then I let him go free.
We will share custody of our kids.
He probably can recite this list in his sleep by now, my poor boyfriend, lol
And if u wonder how old are we, I'm 30, he 29
So any men out there, do you think my list is unreasonable or too much to ask in him to fulfill as a husband?
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