Hello to my new family,
I am happy to have found this forum. Thank you in advance for all your support.
I need advice on how to confront a situation.
A little background – I recently got married 5 months ago to my wife that I met 2 years ago on vacation to her country. I have been visiting her every 2 – 3 months since we met and now just started the VISA process for her to come to the US with me.
She comes from a middle class family and has a job. She's stable financially and I can honestly say it is not for Visa purposes. She currently lives a comfortable life.
On my most recent trip I think I made a mistake by looking at a certain text on my wife's phone. She was taking a shower and her phone kept buzzing non-stop. She was getting a phone call from a guy. I opened her phone and saw missed calls from him. I also saw a text messages between him and my wife.
The text was started by my wife to him with the words "Hi love". The conversation was not explicit…just her explaining a concerning situation in her town. He then advised her on something and said "I truly appreciate you" and she followed with "Ok love, I love you". Then after that there were more attempts by her to communicate with just saying "hello".
I looked up the guy's name and see he's on her Facebook page too. He is a married man and lives in her country.
I feel bad that I went into her phone but really concerned on what I found in the text. Those words "I love you" to another man is really hurtful.
Should I confront her on what I saw? If so how should I do this without looking like I don't trust her or snoopy. It's much tougher as I am now back in the US and would rather talk to her face to face if I indeed should bring this up to her.
I am happy to have found this forum. Thank you in advance for all your support.
I need advice on how to confront a situation.
A little background – I recently got married 5 months ago to my wife that I met 2 years ago on vacation to her country. I have been visiting her every 2 – 3 months since we met and now just started the VISA process for her to come to the US with me.
She comes from a middle class family and has a job. She's stable financially and I can honestly say it is not for Visa purposes. She currently lives a comfortable life.
On my most recent trip I think I made a mistake by looking at a certain text on my wife's phone. She was taking a shower and her phone kept buzzing non-stop. She was getting a phone call from a guy. I opened her phone and saw missed calls from him. I also saw a text messages between him and my wife.
The text was started by my wife to him with the words "Hi love". The conversation was not explicit…just her explaining a concerning situation in her town. He then advised her on something and said "I truly appreciate you" and she followed with "Ok love, I love you". Then after that there were more attempts by her to communicate with just saying "hello".
I looked up the guy's name and see he's on her Facebook page too. He is a married man and lives in her country.
I feel bad that I went into her phone but really concerned on what I found in the text. Those words "I love you" to another man is really hurtful.
Should I confront her on what I saw? If so how should I do this without looking like I don't trust her or snoopy. It's much tougher as I am now back in the US and would rather talk to her face to face if I indeed should bring this up to her.
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