So I am majorly stressing. I will try to condense this, but I need help making a decision on what to do.
My lifelong best friend is getting married. She is marrying a man outside of our country, and their entire relationship has been nothing but drama. His family hates her, and us Americans. Her family hates him and his family, because they are planning on moving to the other country after marriage and they feel like they are losing their daughter. No real reason to hate. Just culture clashing. His family does NOT speak English.
She is currently living there, and trying to plan the wedding for here. But is getting no support from either side of the family.
My husband and I, have had a family vacation planned for over a year now. Our entire family is meeting together in December. (Aunts, cousins, grandparents) I told my friend when we originally talked about wedding planning months and months ago which weekend my vacation was and told her I could not be there that date, but any other of the 51 weekends a year would be fine. That was fine. Her wedding was going to be next year.
I am a bridesmaid. She was my Maid of Honor.
Well in the last 2 weeks, she has just now decided to get married in December instead of the spring. That's right, next month! She just now picked her colors, and I had to hurriedly order my dress. Only one style was able to come in, in time. Of course the most expensive one.
Then she had me buy all the supplies for the invitations, and then the next day decided to go with something else. So I wasted my money. (Going to try to take them back)
She has changed the wedding date 3 times. And just changed it again to the exact weekend of my vacation! :mad:
Apparently that was the only weekend his entire family could come.
So now I am stuck. I either have to miss my best friend's wedding, or I have to skip my vacation. And not only me, but my husband would then have to skip too. And my parents, and the rest of my family will be sad. It is the first family vacations in several years, and my husband has never met that side of the family.
She is a very inconsiderate person and only thinks of herself. She is so fickle, and changes her mind so often I never believe her. She cancels plans last minute, borrows money and doesn't return, etc. I'm hoping she will change the date again, but I don't think so. Flights have been booked, etc.
Everyone just always caters to her wants, and I feel like for ONCE she needs to have some consequences.
I am currently leaning towards just going on vacation as planned. The dress I bought is just a total waste. Gr. But does that make me a horrible best friend? Will I regret it always? I'm sad I won't have that memory of seeing my best friend get married. :(
But dang it, I'm tired of her treating me like a door mat.
What would you do?
My lifelong best friend is getting married. She is marrying a man outside of our country, and their entire relationship has been nothing but drama. His family hates her, and us Americans. Her family hates him and his family, because they are planning on moving to the other country after marriage and they feel like they are losing their daughter. No real reason to hate. Just culture clashing. His family does NOT speak English.
She is currently living there, and trying to plan the wedding for here. But is getting no support from either side of the family.
My husband and I, have had a family vacation planned for over a year now. Our entire family is meeting together in December. (Aunts, cousins, grandparents) I told my friend when we originally talked about wedding planning months and months ago which weekend my vacation was and told her I could not be there that date, but any other of the 51 weekends a year would be fine. That was fine. Her wedding was going to be next year.
I am a bridesmaid. She was my Maid of Honor.
Well in the last 2 weeks, she has just now decided to get married in December instead of the spring. That's right, next month! She just now picked her colors, and I had to hurriedly order my dress. Only one style was able to come in, in time. Of course the most expensive one.
Then she had me buy all the supplies for the invitations, and then the next day decided to go with something else. So I wasted my money. (Going to try to take them back)
She has changed the wedding date 3 times. And just changed it again to the exact weekend of my vacation! :mad:
Apparently that was the only weekend his entire family could come.
So now I am stuck. I either have to miss my best friend's wedding, or I have to skip my vacation. And not only me, but my husband would then have to skip too. And my parents, and the rest of my family will be sad. It is the first family vacations in several years, and my husband has never met that side of the family.
She is a very inconsiderate person and only thinks of herself. She is so fickle, and changes her mind so often I never believe her. She cancels plans last minute, borrows money and doesn't return, etc. I'm hoping she will change the date again, but I don't think so. Flights have been booked, etc.
Everyone just always caters to her wants, and I feel like for ONCE she needs to have some consequences.
I am currently leaning towards just going on vacation as planned. The dress I bought is just a total waste. Gr. But does that make me a horrible best friend? Will I regret it always? I'm sad I won't have that memory of seeing my best friend get married. :(
But dang it, I'm tired of her treating me like a door mat.
What would you do?
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