Why do men complain about a lack of sex so much? I am a wife who is starving for affection and attention (and sex, although my husband would likely argue that I never want sex - so completely untrue). If my man just did any ONE of the below he would get a BJ and/or anything else he wanted every single day. And how much time in his day do they take? Anywhere from 2 seconds to 10 minutes tops. His BJ would be longer. Why is this SO hard to understand? And I've tried to explain it and show it by example, time and time again....
Here's the list (although certainly not inclusive):
1. Hug and kiss your wife and tell her you love her every morning while you're still in bed. Rub her back for a few minutes before you get up. (I would be jumping up to making him coffee/breakfast - that is if I wasn't jumping him first)
2. Tell her that you love her while you are having breakfast together. (I would be smiling for the rest of the day)
3. Kiss her and tell her you love her before you leave for work. (Same as above)
4. Call her during the day to ask how she is doing and that you love her. Or text her, or sext her. Anything to show you're thinking about her and miss her. (I would be bragging to all the women at work what a wonderful husband I had)
5. Buy her flowers or any other kind of treat she likes on the way home at least once a week, with a card that tells her you love her. (I would jump his bones).
6. When you arrive home from work, give her a big hug and kiss and spend a few minutes talking to her about how her day went. Don't do anything else before you have given her your undivided attention. (I would be smiling all evening)
7. Help her make dinner, or clear off the table and wash and dry the dishes with her, giving her a hug and kiss at least once, and tell her that you love her. (Same as above - feeling very loved)
8. Hug and kiss her and tell her you love her in bed before you both go to sleep. (Again, jumping his bones, sleeping like an angel)
9.Touch her arm or knee when you talk with her. Your gentle touch communicates, "I'm here. You're not alone. I enjoy you. I'll take care of you." (feeling safe, taken care of and cared about)
10. Make an effort to spend time alone together – go out for dinner, for a walk, or out for coffee. Show her (and others) that you enjoy the intimacy of being alone with her. (Happy wife!!)
11.Grab her hand and hold it when you're out in public. (feeling appreciated, loved, wanted, secure)
12. Best yet, provide nonsexual touching - yes, that's right. Give her a foot rub or back rub without it leading into anything else. Don't go from scratching her back for 10 seconds to reaching for her breast. Let her totally relax. Almost guaranteed she will make a move. But even if she doesn't she sure will soon (likely the next morning).
Instead my H gets angry when he grabs a nipple and pinches it and I move his hand away. He hasn't even looked at me for a week - I mean, met my eyes at all. His other move is to shove his hand down the back of my pyjama bottoms and rub my ******* or down the front and start rubbing a dry vagina. No kissing, no touching, nothing....just that very direct move. Then again when I move his hand away he gets mad and gives up with a sigh (like I'm the bad guy). I'm left starved for affection - and sex - good sex that is. Again, I've told him and showed him what I like. I truly think it is sheer laziness and just not caring.
Even earlier on, when the sex was better and he was more attentive, he would ensure I received my pleasure first (which I appreciate that he took that time, many don't) but I've never once experienced (as ALL men have) the joy of having an orgasm and then just laying back and enjoying the waves of pleasure. Nope, as soon as my orgasm comes its "ok, my turn, get to work" - I mean, not said out loud (usually) but he lies back and expects me to either do him orally or get on top. Which usually, is fine (and by the way, I actually enjoy giving more than receiving) but just once in my life, I 'd like to lie back, relax and enjoy. Men don't know how good they have it and how easy it is to warm a woman up and have sex all the time!
Here's the list (although certainly not inclusive):
1. Hug and kiss your wife and tell her you love her every morning while you're still in bed. Rub her back for a few minutes before you get up. (I would be jumping up to making him coffee/breakfast - that is if I wasn't jumping him first)
2. Tell her that you love her while you are having breakfast together. (I would be smiling for the rest of the day)
3. Kiss her and tell her you love her before you leave for work. (Same as above)
4. Call her during the day to ask how she is doing and that you love her. Or text her, or sext her. Anything to show you're thinking about her and miss her. (I would be bragging to all the women at work what a wonderful husband I had)
5. Buy her flowers or any other kind of treat she likes on the way home at least once a week, with a card that tells her you love her. (I would jump his bones).
6. When you arrive home from work, give her a big hug and kiss and spend a few minutes talking to her about how her day went. Don't do anything else before you have given her your undivided attention. (I would be smiling all evening)
7. Help her make dinner, or clear off the table and wash and dry the dishes with her, giving her a hug and kiss at least once, and tell her that you love her. (Same as above - feeling very loved)
8. Hug and kiss her and tell her you love her in bed before you both go to sleep. (Again, jumping his bones, sleeping like an angel)
9.Touch her arm or knee when you talk with her. Your gentle touch communicates, "I'm here. You're not alone. I enjoy you. I'll take care of you." (feeling safe, taken care of and cared about)
10. Make an effort to spend time alone together – go out for dinner, for a walk, or out for coffee. Show her (and others) that you enjoy the intimacy of being alone with her. (Happy wife!!)
11.Grab her hand and hold it when you're out in public. (feeling appreciated, loved, wanted, secure)
12. Best yet, provide nonsexual touching - yes, that's right. Give her a foot rub or back rub without it leading into anything else. Don't go from scratching her back for 10 seconds to reaching for her breast. Let her totally relax. Almost guaranteed she will make a move. But even if she doesn't she sure will soon (likely the next morning).
Instead my H gets angry when he grabs a nipple and pinches it and I move his hand away. He hasn't even looked at me for a week - I mean, met my eyes at all. His other move is to shove his hand down the back of my pyjama bottoms and rub my ******* or down the front and start rubbing a dry vagina. No kissing, no touching, nothing....just that very direct move. Then again when I move his hand away he gets mad and gives up with a sigh (like I'm the bad guy). I'm left starved for affection - and sex - good sex that is. Again, I've told him and showed him what I like. I truly think it is sheer laziness and just not caring.
Even earlier on, when the sex was better and he was more attentive, he would ensure I received my pleasure first (which I appreciate that he took that time, many don't) but I've never once experienced (as ALL men have) the joy of having an orgasm and then just laying back and enjoying the waves of pleasure. Nope, as soon as my orgasm comes its "ok, my turn, get to work" - I mean, not said out loud (usually) but he lies back and expects me to either do him orally or get on top. Which usually, is fine (and by the way, I actually enjoy giving more than receiving) but just once in my life, I 'd like to lie back, relax and enjoy. Men don't know how good they have it and how easy it is to warm a woman up and have sex all the time!
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