My girlfriend and I are playing darts at the bar the other night when a guy friend from her softball team, completely drunk, comes over and starts chatting with her, getting a little too close to her for my tastes. I'm not the jealous type because I want to trust my girlfriend and I'm generally not an insecure person, but I know enough to know this idiot is drunkenly hitting on her (even after she introduced us, making it even more disrespectful). At first I'm thinking, fine, whatever, she can fight for her own battles, I'm just trying to concentrate on our dart game. My girlfriend knows what's happening and is unsuccessful getting him to leave us alone, so I calmly say, "We're in the middle of a dart game, do you mind leaving us alone." He leaves.
He returns about 20 minutes later and asks my girlfriend to take a picture of him and one of his drunken buddies, right up in her space. She tries to deflect but he continues to bother her, and then he inquires why she is being mean. It's at this point where I blow up and call him a few derogatory names and tell him to "get the **** outta here" and "leave her alone" or else he's getting punched. He feigns innocence for a minute (typical tactic by someone who knows he was being a jerk, I've seen it before) until he knows I'm being really serious. He finally leaves.
So, I have a few questions:
1 - Did I overreact? I know some of you might be thinking what he said to her initially, and to be honest it was loud enough that I couldn't make it out, but his facial expressions and his close proximity to her (he was literally inches from her face) made me believe it wasn't good, and the fact that my girlfriend was a little flustered kind of sealed it for me. She even apologized about it after he left the first time without clarifying what he said.
2 - My girlfriend plays softball with this jerk, and I'm a little uncomfortable she's been around this guy for months (I'm 100% confident she's never cheated, but who knows what he's tried to pull in the past or will pull in the future?). There are a couple other guys on this team I'm suspicious about--my girlfriend and I have had discussions about this in the past, and I can't help but wonder why she wants to play for a team that's comprised of alcoholic fratty-types who practically live at bars.
I've been thinking about this for a couple days and I'm even questioning her character a bit for wanting to play on a softball team with these type of people (on a related note, I do think we as a couple hang out at bars way too often). Am I being unreasonable or do my concerns have some validity to them?
He returns about 20 minutes later and asks my girlfriend to take a picture of him and one of his drunken buddies, right up in her space. She tries to deflect but he continues to bother her, and then he inquires why she is being mean. It's at this point where I blow up and call him a few derogatory names and tell him to "get the **** outta here" and "leave her alone" or else he's getting punched. He feigns innocence for a minute (typical tactic by someone who knows he was being a jerk, I've seen it before) until he knows I'm being really serious. He finally leaves.
So, I have a few questions:
1 - Did I overreact? I know some of you might be thinking what he said to her initially, and to be honest it was loud enough that I couldn't make it out, but his facial expressions and his close proximity to her (he was literally inches from her face) made me believe it wasn't good, and the fact that my girlfriend was a little flustered kind of sealed it for me. She even apologized about it after he left the first time without clarifying what he said.
2 - My girlfriend plays softball with this jerk, and I'm a little uncomfortable she's been around this guy for months (I'm 100% confident she's never cheated, but who knows what he's tried to pull in the past or will pull in the future?). There are a couple other guys on this team I'm suspicious about--my girlfriend and I have had discussions about this in the past, and I can't help but wonder why she wants to play for a team that's comprised of alcoholic fratty-types who practically live at bars.
I've been thinking about this for a couple days and I'm even questioning her character a bit for wanting to play on a softball team with these type of people (on a related note, I do think we as a couple hang out at bars way too often). Am I being unreasonable or do my concerns have some validity to them?
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