I used to think I had a great marriage before I began to really see all of our issues. We're working on some things, and things are going really well.
One of my changes is to man up. Previously, I was trying to let her decide everything so that she could have what she wanted and be happy. But I've now realized that what she has really wanted was for me to assume the leadership role.
We have constant dinnertime battles. From planning to shopping to cooking to eating, there's drama at every step.
All the planning had previously fallen on her, then we would shop as a family. She would come home at 5pm and cook, and the kids would undoubtedly fight about eating salad or peas or whatever. On more than one occasion, this caused her serious emotional distress to the point of tears.
New approach: I plan, I shop on the way home from work, I cook. They eat it or they go hungry.
So... As a "regular" dad, my cooking is pretty much limited to stuff that starts with browning ground beef. Tacos, Hamburger Helper, spaghetti, or I can fire up the grill.
Surely you guys have some good food sites in your back pockets. I've thought about emeals too, but I don't know if I want to be that structured. Bottom line, I'm no chef, but I can follow a recipe. I'm going to ease some of the newness onto my inherently picky kids. Last night's battle was baked beans. How do you not like something with 12 cups of brown sugar??
Thanks.
One of my changes is to man up. Previously, I was trying to let her decide everything so that she could have what she wanted and be happy. But I've now realized that what she has really wanted was for me to assume the leadership role.
We have constant dinnertime battles. From planning to shopping to cooking to eating, there's drama at every step.
All the planning had previously fallen on her, then we would shop as a family. She would come home at 5pm and cook, and the kids would undoubtedly fight about eating salad or peas or whatever. On more than one occasion, this caused her serious emotional distress to the point of tears.
New approach: I plan, I shop on the way home from work, I cook. They eat it or they go hungry.
- This is a big alpha step for me, as I'm now running mealtime.
- It stops us from all going grocery shopping where we inevitably overspend.
- It takes a huge load of stress off my wife, which she can thank me for later in the evening. :smthumbup:
- My wife is debilitatingly picky. Her view of what constitutes "food" has always been very narrow, so this gives us a chance to branch out.
So... As a "regular" dad, my cooking is pretty much limited to stuff that starts with browning ground beef. Tacos, Hamburger Helper, spaghetti, or I can fire up the grill.
Surely you guys have some good food sites in your back pockets. I've thought about emeals too, but I don't know if I want to be that structured. Bottom line, I'm no chef, but I can follow a recipe. I'm going to ease some of the newness onto my inherently picky kids. Last night's battle was baked beans. How do you not like something with 12 cups of brown sugar??
Thanks.
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