Hello... I'm new here. Let me first apologize for the lengthy post below.
My wife and I have been together for about 14 years now. A few years ago we decided to take up a hobby together. We got into a team sport league where there are a number of married couples.
As it happened we started out going to a new players clinic to see if we would enjoy this past time and we did. As it happened my wife fell into the opportunity to get the expensive gear needed to compete for quite a deal. She then started without me and for a year as I worked to find the right gear for me, she was gone just about every weekend without me competing.
This extra year ahead of me has allowed her to rise in the ranks above where I am at this point.
I do pretty good as last year I won the rookie of the year award and had a number of wins with those who I happened to team up with at the events.
This year I seem to be in a sophomore slump of some sorts. Those higher in the ranks just seem to pass me over when looking to create a team. Many times, my wife and I are approached by one of the higher ranked players and they will ask her if she has any availability to join their team for the event. She will often reply that she cannot but I am available to which they reply oh well or something and walk away in search for another.
Going to these events involves an entry fee for each time one wants to play. Needless to say the more you play the more it costs. Prizes are awarded to the winning team, so there is an incentive to want to win. Hence the reason my wife with a year more experience gets preferred over me.
I get asked to join teams but find myself having to team up with those left on the sidelines like myself. We aren't "in the click" and do the best we can. Sometimes we get luck on our side and do win; but more often than not, it is those "in the click".
My wife is obsessed with the game and the community of folks whom we do this with, why well because she is usually winning.
It goes without saying that while winning isn't everything, losing all the time stinks.
At this point, I don't know what to do anymore. I feel as though I am just wasting my money to attempt to go to an event that my wife really doesn't care if I am there or not.
She and I sometime will team up with others; but I find the team she puts together usually involves myself and another usually found on the sidelines as those "in the click" are already signed up.
If I stop going, she will continue to go without me as she did for that year, having a great time without me while I sit home alone.
Not sure what to do :( I'm pretty miserable about it.
Thanks for taking the time to get this far
My wife and I have been together for about 14 years now. A few years ago we decided to take up a hobby together. We got into a team sport league where there are a number of married couples.
As it happened we started out going to a new players clinic to see if we would enjoy this past time and we did. As it happened my wife fell into the opportunity to get the expensive gear needed to compete for quite a deal. She then started without me and for a year as I worked to find the right gear for me, she was gone just about every weekend without me competing.
This extra year ahead of me has allowed her to rise in the ranks above where I am at this point.
I do pretty good as last year I won the rookie of the year award and had a number of wins with those who I happened to team up with at the events.
This year I seem to be in a sophomore slump of some sorts. Those higher in the ranks just seem to pass me over when looking to create a team. Many times, my wife and I are approached by one of the higher ranked players and they will ask her if she has any availability to join their team for the event. She will often reply that she cannot but I am available to which they reply oh well or something and walk away in search for another.
Going to these events involves an entry fee for each time one wants to play. Needless to say the more you play the more it costs. Prizes are awarded to the winning team, so there is an incentive to want to win. Hence the reason my wife with a year more experience gets preferred over me.
I get asked to join teams but find myself having to team up with those left on the sidelines like myself. We aren't "in the click" and do the best we can. Sometimes we get luck on our side and do win; but more often than not, it is those "in the click".
My wife is obsessed with the game and the community of folks whom we do this with, why well because she is usually winning.
It goes without saying that while winning isn't everything, losing all the time stinks.
At this point, I don't know what to do anymore. I feel as though I am just wasting my money to attempt to go to an event that my wife really doesn't care if I am there or not.
She and I sometime will team up with others; but I find the team she puts together usually involves myself and another usually found on the sidelines as those "in the click" are already signed up.
If I stop going, she will continue to go without me as she did for that year, having a great time without me while I sit home alone.
Not sure what to do :( I'm pretty miserable about it.
Thanks for taking the time to get this far
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