Hi everyone. I really believe that I am dealing with a narcissistic man.
I will give a little background - when we first met, he swept me off of my feet. He was perfect. Said all of the right things, at the right times. Pretty soon, we were engaged and married... all within 7 months of knowing each other. I was so excited to get married. I knew that he had to be the one, even though we had not known each other long... because he was just "so perfect:.
I swear to god... the NIGHT we got married. Things changed. We did not even have sex the night we got married. He immediately became distant in so many ways. He was no longer attentive to my needs. When we DID have sex, it became to be all about him. He stopped pleasing me. He stopped telling me I'm pretty.
A few months later, I was pregnant. Things only got worse from here. We had no physical contact at all. He watched porn daily, instead of wanting to have sex with me. He joked about the weight I gained (I have always been pretty thin... so the weight gain was a little hard on me and his jokes did get to me).
Fast forward to now, our most recent big fight was because I found messages in his phone between him and a girl at work. They had been texting and talking on the phone every day and night for over a month. I threatened to leave, and he put on this big show. Saying how much he loved me.. he made a mistake... he never actually cheated (not sure if I believe it because of our lack of sex).
I feel torn. We have a child. We bought a house together not too long ago. What happened to the man I fell in love with?? Now, he is always making fun of me in some way. He is always right. He never comes home on time. He lies. I am pretty sure he has cheated. When we do have sex, it is ALL about him. I don't remember the last time he touched me. He also got a DUI a few weeks ago (his 3rd one in the last 5 years). He smokes weed daily.
I am pretty sure I am dealing with a narc. He thinks hes the greatest. He thinks he is invincible.
Sorry for the long post. Really just needed to vent. I do not know where to go from here. I should have dated him longer so that I could see how he really is. I wish I could go back in time.
If I were to leave, I don't know how I could take care of my son on my own. I have moved hundreds of miles from my family with him (big mistake also!!). So, I feel stuck.
Any advice or thoughts would be appreciated.
I will give a little background - when we first met, he swept me off of my feet. He was perfect. Said all of the right things, at the right times. Pretty soon, we were engaged and married... all within 7 months of knowing each other. I was so excited to get married. I knew that he had to be the one, even though we had not known each other long... because he was just "so perfect:.
I swear to god... the NIGHT we got married. Things changed. We did not even have sex the night we got married. He immediately became distant in so many ways. He was no longer attentive to my needs. When we DID have sex, it became to be all about him. He stopped pleasing me. He stopped telling me I'm pretty.
A few months later, I was pregnant. Things only got worse from here. We had no physical contact at all. He watched porn daily, instead of wanting to have sex with me. He joked about the weight I gained (I have always been pretty thin... so the weight gain was a little hard on me and his jokes did get to me).
Fast forward to now, our most recent big fight was because I found messages in his phone between him and a girl at work. They had been texting and talking on the phone every day and night for over a month. I threatened to leave, and he put on this big show. Saying how much he loved me.. he made a mistake... he never actually cheated (not sure if I believe it because of our lack of sex).
I feel torn. We have a child. We bought a house together not too long ago. What happened to the man I fell in love with?? Now, he is always making fun of me in some way. He is always right. He never comes home on time. He lies. I am pretty sure he has cheated. When we do have sex, it is ALL about him. I don't remember the last time he touched me. He also got a DUI a few weeks ago (his 3rd one in the last 5 years). He smokes weed daily.
I am pretty sure I am dealing with a narc. He thinks hes the greatest. He thinks he is invincible.
Sorry for the long post. Really just needed to vent. I do not know where to go from here. I should have dated him longer so that I could see how he really is. I wish I could go back in time.
If I were to leave, I don't know how I could take care of my son on my own. I have moved hundreds of miles from my family with him (big mistake also!!). So, I feel stuck.
Any advice or thoughts would be appreciated.
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