I've read quite a few posts on those who are jealous of their SO's past. What's mind blowing is when a woman posts that she's jealous of her man's past the (presumably) female members rush to post what a cheater and pig the guy is and how they should ditch the guy immediately. But when it's a guy posting about being jealous of his wife's past, he's told he's being irrational, a jerk, that he should be happy and grateful for her past because that's what led her to him in the first place. The guy is also told to get counseling to fix his "problem".
Here's my take on it...
If your SO has had a promiscuous past, they are one day going to want to revisit that past. You've heard the saying "History repeats itself"? Truer words were never spoken. A spouse that needed such a diverse array of bedfellows in their past is likely carrying a ton of baggage; baggage that led them to be so promiscuous in the first place.
Some will dismiss what I'm saying, calling me crazy, jealous, looney, whatever. The point is - if you are bothered by your SO's past then there is a reason for it. He/she has done something to trigger these thoughts in your head. And they will NOT go away, even if you want them to go away.
You may be in a marriage for 2 years, 5 years, 8 years, 14 years - before it happens. But trust me, folks, it WILL undoubtedly happen. He/she will eventually become so bored with their mundane existence that they will inevitably relive their past exploits - first in their minds. Then they start masturbating to those thoughts. Maybe it even escalates to viewing pornography. Then they "casually" check out online dating - yes, even if they are "happily" married to you! They will say "oh I was only curious of what kinds of people were out there looking for love". No! That excuse is utter BS!
Eventually, it escalates into casual exchanges with a stranger - emails, chats, just going for lunch or coffee... and then it becomes physical. Before you know it - your SO is cheating on you.
Hear my words - how do you know if your SO was promiscuous in a bad way and likely to do it again? There is ONE way to know for sure. If they say they are super ashamed of their past and wish they could take it back and ONLY be with you, and they mean it, then your fears of their past are unjustified.
But if your SO says they aren't ashamed of their past, that they are proud of where they came from, that "my past led me to you so why be ashamed of it?" BS explanation - then you have justifiable reason to be afraid. A SO that doesn't regret their sexual deviance before meeting the "so-called" person of their dreams is nothing but a liar to you and the vows they took (probably with their fingers crossed or laughing silently in their mind as they said those vows). These are the partners who WILL cheat on you. And for those men or women who have an SO like this - my advice is simple: get out now. Make a clean break, cut the cord and don't look back. You will be saving yourself a TON of heartache and sleepless, tearful nights to come. Yes, the initial shock of disowning the deviant SO will hurt, but remember - time heals ALL wounds. And this, too, will heal.
Peace.
Here's my take on it...
If your SO has had a promiscuous past, they are one day going to want to revisit that past. You've heard the saying "History repeats itself"? Truer words were never spoken. A spouse that needed such a diverse array of bedfellows in their past is likely carrying a ton of baggage; baggage that led them to be so promiscuous in the first place.
Some will dismiss what I'm saying, calling me crazy, jealous, looney, whatever. The point is - if you are bothered by your SO's past then there is a reason for it. He/she has done something to trigger these thoughts in your head. And they will NOT go away, even if you want them to go away.
You may be in a marriage for 2 years, 5 years, 8 years, 14 years - before it happens. But trust me, folks, it WILL undoubtedly happen. He/she will eventually become so bored with their mundane existence that they will inevitably relive their past exploits - first in their minds. Then they start masturbating to those thoughts. Maybe it even escalates to viewing pornography. Then they "casually" check out online dating - yes, even if they are "happily" married to you! They will say "oh I was only curious of what kinds of people were out there looking for love". No! That excuse is utter BS!
Eventually, it escalates into casual exchanges with a stranger - emails, chats, just going for lunch or coffee... and then it becomes physical. Before you know it - your SO is cheating on you.
Hear my words - how do you know if your SO was promiscuous in a bad way and likely to do it again? There is ONE way to know for sure. If they say they are super ashamed of their past and wish they could take it back and ONLY be with you, and they mean it, then your fears of their past are unjustified.
But if your SO says they aren't ashamed of their past, that they are proud of where they came from, that "my past led me to you so why be ashamed of it?" BS explanation - then you have justifiable reason to be afraid. A SO that doesn't regret their sexual deviance before meeting the "so-called" person of their dreams is nothing but a liar to you and the vows they took (probably with their fingers crossed or laughing silently in their mind as they said those vows). These are the partners who WILL cheat on you. And for those men or women who have an SO like this - my advice is simple: get out now. Make a clean break, cut the cord and don't look back. You will be saving yourself a TON of heartache and sleepless, tearful nights to come. Yes, the initial shock of disowning the deviant SO will hurt, but remember - time heals ALL wounds. And this, too, will heal.
Peace.
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