Hi All,
I recently posted in Considering Separation and Divorce, link below:
http://ift.tt/1rPmxeU
And after dealing with inconsistencies and what I thought were lies I went about to find what I guess I didn't really want to find which was another man. I put two and two together with irrevocable proof and confronted her. I had to lay out the proof as she first denied it. Then admitted to a Facebook, text and phone relationship with an old boyfriend, a very serious one. At first she said it was just old memory sharing and that she had broken it off. Then admitted it was more and said he had broken it off and that she was sad about that.
At first I was expectedly furious and threatened divorce which she promptly threw back in my face as I am currently unemployed and have no means to support my kids. However, since then I have felt only pain and loss. She admits it was a mistake but when I asked her if she felt guilty she did not answer. She insists that it is over and that if I had never found out it would have been for the best.
When she was just talking about separation I felt like it was something I could handle. Now instead of wanting a separation I want even more to try to work things out. But she isn't sure if she wants to work things out. I feel like a loser and I'm not really looking for sympathy but does anyone understand feeling this way?? Is it real or just some kind of knee jerk reaction?? I have made an appointment with a therapist but would like perspective from the members here.
Thanks!!
I recently posted in Considering Separation and Divorce, link below:
http://ift.tt/1rPmxeU
And after dealing with inconsistencies and what I thought were lies I went about to find what I guess I didn't really want to find which was another man. I put two and two together with irrevocable proof and confronted her. I had to lay out the proof as she first denied it. Then admitted to a Facebook, text and phone relationship with an old boyfriend, a very serious one. At first she said it was just old memory sharing and that she had broken it off. Then admitted it was more and said he had broken it off and that she was sad about that.
At first I was expectedly furious and threatened divorce which she promptly threw back in my face as I am currently unemployed and have no means to support my kids. However, since then I have felt only pain and loss. She admits it was a mistake but when I asked her if she felt guilty she did not answer. She insists that it is over and that if I had never found out it would have been for the best.
When she was just talking about separation I felt like it was something I could handle. Now instead of wanting a separation I want even more to try to work things out. But she isn't sure if she wants to work things out. I feel like a loser and I'm not really looking for sympathy but does anyone understand feeling this way?? Is it real or just some kind of knee jerk reaction?? I have made an appointment with a therapist but would like perspective from the members here.
Thanks!!
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