Our problems ended back in 2008 when we ended our separation and got back together again. I should mention that I am ASD and that one of my qualities is loyalty. I know my wife said she had sex with 12 guys in the four years we were separated and that they were for the most part better built than I am and better lovers (ouch). I didn't like it much, but I am dogged in my commitments and went to IC to get through it all, Wife says its in the past so don't bother.
I am a bit of a dinosaur when it comes to computers, I am 60 and married for almost 40 years. I tried to uninstall a couple of unwanted programs and I erased the start functions and many of the other programs. I went to system restore and when it got working I find a bunch of strange files on my first page (the one with all the aps) So I open them usual stuff, some accounting work, information downloads but then I open one and it has a 15 page type script of sex talk with some guy named Bill dated back in late 2010 to 2011. From what they were saying it is clear they had sex many times. Then in a file about pictures of flowers I find some 25 photos of them having sex. Her sucking him off, his ****, him pounding on her and cum dribbling out of her vagina.
Her adopted (sort of) daughter was alone at her families cottage and my wife went up and was going to stay from Weds to Fri morning and the two of them would come home. Not certain about that now.
Any way I called her up and read some of the typescript to her. First she said it wasn't her, then she said she didn't remember it, then that it was when we were separated (I reminded her that by 2010-2011 we had been back together for three years) then she said it was fiction she was writing (for what purpose, yeah I believe she's writing the newest sex novel) Her final shot was that he was dead. (he didn`t look like a zombie and so what, she was ***king some guy who wasn`t me even if it was a couple of years ago). At that point she said don`t read it any more it will bother me (yeah thanks) About 20 minutes later I came on the pictures, so I called her back and told her what was in the pictures. Again she said don`t look and I said too late.
She hung up on me and hasn`t been available since.
First, I need to get more information from her as to the length of the affair, etc. why she was refusing sex with me while she was banging me. I`d like proof that he is dead. so I know where I`m headed.
I have phoned her sister, the guy she does the accounting for and her brother. I will wait to see what I am doing before I call my family. I haven`t spoken to them in a while a I guess I`ll need to.
I know what to do. Be cordial and control my temper. Speak to her about the regular things but not our relationship. Suggest marriage counselling. Separate my accounts, find a good lawyer and have her served. Canada is I believe no fault, but I want to see if there is some way I can get her adultery in the divorce papers
Division of property isn`t much as all we really have is my pension, and it tops up the divorced spouse. So her pension is about $10,000 dollars while mine is closer to $50,000 unless I stay and work till I'm 65, then I`ll get about $60.000. She has always thought that we would stay together because we can`t afford it otherwise.
To add to the mix I am on dialysis and working for another five years is a problem, and I`d need to afford to live near a unit, limits my housing options.
I guess the only thing I fear is dying alone. It was hard enough to find the one I got. Sucks:confused:
I am a bit of a dinosaur when it comes to computers, I am 60 and married for almost 40 years. I tried to uninstall a couple of unwanted programs and I erased the start functions and many of the other programs. I went to system restore and when it got working I find a bunch of strange files on my first page (the one with all the aps) So I open them usual stuff, some accounting work, information downloads but then I open one and it has a 15 page type script of sex talk with some guy named Bill dated back in late 2010 to 2011. From what they were saying it is clear they had sex many times. Then in a file about pictures of flowers I find some 25 photos of them having sex. Her sucking him off, his ****, him pounding on her and cum dribbling out of her vagina.
Her adopted (sort of) daughter was alone at her families cottage and my wife went up and was going to stay from Weds to Fri morning and the two of them would come home. Not certain about that now.
Any way I called her up and read some of the typescript to her. First she said it wasn't her, then she said she didn't remember it, then that it was when we were separated (I reminded her that by 2010-2011 we had been back together for three years) then she said it was fiction she was writing (for what purpose, yeah I believe she's writing the newest sex novel) Her final shot was that he was dead. (he didn`t look like a zombie and so what, she was ***king some guy who wasn`t me even if it was a couple of years ago). At that point she said don`t read it any more it will bother me (yeah thanks) About 20 minutes later I came on the pictures, so I called her back and told her what was in the pictures. Again she said don`t look and I said too late.
She hung up on me and hasn`t been available since.
First, I need to get more information from her as to the length of the affair, etc. why she was refusing sex with me while she was banging me. I`d like proof that he is dead. so I know where I`m headed.
I have phoned her sister, the guy she does the accounting for and her brother. I will wait to see what I am doing before I call my family. I haven`t spoken to them in a while a I guess I`ll need to.
I know what to do. Be cordial and control my temper. Speak to her about the regular things but not our relationship. Suggest marriage counselling. Separate my accounts, find a good lawyer and have her served. Canada is I believe no fault, but I want to see if there is some way I can get her adultery in the divorce papers
Division of property isn`t much as all we really have is my pension, and it tops up the divorced spouse. So her pension is about $10,000 dollars while mine is closer to $50,000 unless I stay and work till I'm 65, then I`ll get about $60.000. She has always thought that we would stay together because we can`t afford it otherwise.
To add to the mix I am on dialysis and working for another five years is a problem, and I`d need to afford to live near a unit, limits my housing options.
I guess the only thing I fear is dying alone. It was hard enough to find the one I got. Sucks:confused:
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