Been a while since ive been on here. Long back story you can look up if you wish, but I will just speak about the current issues.
Ive been with my boyfriend for almost 18 months and we just bought a house and moved in together. Im 35not and he is 41 and weve both been married and divorced. We are still going through adjustment issues, and on the whole, I like to think our relationship is pretty stable/healthy.
Yes, I have gained about 15 pounds since we met. I have no excuse for that other than my "exercise time" was cut because i wanted to spend time with him! Lol! Also, he is an amazing cook and gets his feelings hurt if I dont eat what he prepares. (Which he prepares a lot, usually, and its delish!)
The other night I asked him why our sex life was dwindling, and he admitted that hestoo "very visual" and that he's not as attracted to me any more. Ok, fair. Yes, it hurt (especially considering hes gained 30 pounds since we met, but i still think hes sexy.)
My best friend is livid. Says he doesnt love me for me if 15 pounds is causing him to not want to have sex with me. I give him plenty of BJs, lots of attention. More than he gives me, and it does get a little annoying.
I wasnt a skinny girl when we met, but i was smaller. I was in a solid 8, could fit some 6's. Now im in a solid 10, can squeeze into some 8s. (And im only 5 feet tall.) I remember him having some "issues" with his staminaeven back then. Weve been talking about him going to the doctor for a while now.
There are other issues i wont get into here, but they have to do with his past and some lingering legal bullcrap that i have to deal with. I make more money than he does too, even though he has a good job and works full time (LOTS of past bills and such.) So i support most of the household. He mainly cooks, but i clean, take care of the animals, and my two kiddos who live with us.
We usually have a pretty good line of communication, although he can be immature and dramatic at times. But i guess im just wondering if maybe i should ask him to talk about some of these things. He kinda gets a little "bored" for lack of a better word when we talk too much about us. He just wants us to be. And i agree to a point. I dont want to talk up a probalem that doesnt exist.
But i also dont want to make the same mistake i did for the last 12 years of marriage hell i lived in. This guy and I get along great for the most part, but he does have a selfish, manipulative side. It gets tiring trying to combat it all the time.
Advice?
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Ive been with my boyfriend for almost 18 months and we just bought a house and moved in together. Im 35not and he is 41 and weve both been married and divorced. We are still going through adjustment issues, and on the whole, I like to think our relationship is pretty stable/healthy.
Yes, I have gained about 15 pounds since we met. I have no excuse for that other than my "exercise time" was cut because i wanted to spend time with him! Lol! Also, he is an amazing cook and gets his feelings hurt if I dont eat what he prepares. (Which he prepares a lot, usually, and its delish!)
The other night I asked him why our sex life was dwindling, and he admitted that hestoo "very visual" and that he's not as attracted to me any more. Ok, fair. Yes, it hurt (especially considering hes gained 30 pounds since we met, but i still think hes sexy.)
My best friend is livid. Says he doesnt love me for me if 15 pounds is causing him to not want to have sex with me. I give him plenty of BJs, lots of attention. More than he gives me, and it does get a little annoying.
I wasnt a skinny girl when we met, but i was smaller. I was in a solid 8, could fit some 6's. Now im in a solid 10, can squeeze into some 8s. (And im only 5 feet tall.) I remember him having some "issues" with his staminaeven back then. Weve been talking about him going to the doctor for a while now.
There are other issues i wont get into here, but they have to do with his past and some lingering legal bullcrap that i have to deal with. I make more money than he does too, even though he has a good job and works full time (LOTS of past bills and such.) So i support most of the household. He mainly cooks, but i clean, take care of the animals, and my two kiddos who live with us.
We usually have a pretty good line of communication, although he can be immature and dramatic at times. But i guess im just wondering if maybe i should ask him to talk about some of these things. He kinda gets a little "bored" for lack of a better word when we talk too much about us. He just wants us to be. And i agree to a point. I dont want to talk up a probalem that doesnt exist.
But i also dont want to make the same mistake i did for the last 12 years of marriage hell i lived in. This guy and I get along great for the most part, but he does have a selfish, manipulative side. It gets tiring trying to combat it all the time.
Advice?
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