Been married 14 years, children aged 5, 9, & 12. Wife tells me she has no feelings anymore other than the father of our children. Found out she is addicted to diet pills, was recently on accutane which I had hoped was the problem. She suddenly started working out and dropping weight a few months ago and now gets up at 4:30 in the morning to work out before work. She for the first time has started cursing and for the first time doesn't go to church regularly. We are both teachers and teach at the same school. She shows all the signs of having a. Affair but denies it, hasn't really had the time to do it, and we still have sex very regularly. She has always been untruthful about things and I can tell when she's lying and she doesn't seem to be. She says she is getting ready to start looking for someone. She wants to go out with her single friends now as we'll. she says that my past bad treatment of her has hardened her heart and she doesn't t hink she'll ever love me again. The things I've been accused of I mostly haven't done in years such as not helping around the house, being controlling, being untrusting, bad temper events, not helping enough w the kids. Sadly much of this is true although I have drastically changed my behavior and through fear of divorce, I've now seen all the hurt I've caused her in the past. It appears it's too late, that no matter how well I treat her she only remembers all the bad things I've ever done. Being nice to her has the opposite effect, so I'm now trying the 180 thing because I figure it's over and that she is going to leave at any time. She stays on her phone constantly and avoids me. In all my research, I've not found ANY success stories. Anybody got a clue how to change things before I lose her forever? I dearly love the woman and she says she believes I am sincere in my apology and believes the changes I've made are permanent, just doesn't think she'll ever rega in the feelings she has lost. I feel helpless. Any ideas? Has anyone here successfully turned it around? how?
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