WARNING! Long post ahead, read at your own peril.
I made a thread a while back about my standards being too high, and I don't really think I explained myself fully. I think the question above is more suited to what I wanted to know
As I said there, I have a kind of imaginary boyfriend (I know crazy.) Basically, in my head I have this image of the guy I want to be with looks/personality-wise. Well, it's not just an image, it's like a video, and this guy isn't perfect. He has mental health problems (like me), a negligent father (don't ask), and an older brother/friends that I have also invented. I play out scenes of this in my head on a daily basis. I'm a writer, and I use the same process to come up with characters, so essentially I'm in love with a character. Literally like those people who fall in love with fictional characters.
Because of this, I feel like I'll never be happy in a relationship, as I can't get rid of this image/video. I have really bad depression too, so I guess I kind of use this as an escape because it's better than my real-life. In a way I don't want to get rid of it, but I know if I don't then I may never have a happy relationship.
People always say 'just lower your standards', but it's not that easy for me. I don't understand how I can just turn off my imagination. Surely, if I just force myself into a relationship, then I'll never be happy. Two people have asked me out in the past few months and I've rejected them for these reasons.
So...My question is, how can I possibly lower my standards? And how can I ever allow myself to be happy in a relationship?
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