I recently met a guy through work (academia). He's a really nice funny guy.
Based on the following facts, do you think he has feelings for me:
- He chats to me fairly frequently via IM, often for half an hour or more at a time. Often this is about things unrelated to work, and he tells me a lot of random facts about his day, but he is usually the one to end the conversation. He winds me up a lot, and sometimes calls me kiddo (I'm 5 years younger- 24, 29).
- He suggested working on a project together, which would involve spending time working together and ensure that we are at the same conference next year.
- He asked me what conference I was going to this year and then put two papers in, and was disappointed when it turned out I wasn't going.
- He remembers a lot of small facts about past conversations, that you wouldn't normally remember
- He lives in Scotland but recently visited the town in England where I'm staying (I'm only here for 3 months), on the premise of visiting his friend (who has lived there for a year and he's never visited her before). He's also mentioned coming over again before I leave.
- He's just got a job at a Scottish Uni and told me he plans to stay there for the rest of his career.
- He's currently 'seeing' 3 girls on and off (including 2 exes) and told me this. He says they all know about it so it's not his problem. A mutual friend told me he uses his charm to get women, and sees a lot of girls.
- He's generally a very friendly guy with a lot of mates, including a lot of female friends he's very close to.
- He's never given me any indication that he is attracted to me (that I've noticed). However I have a boyfriend (no judgement please), which he knows about. I have never given him any indication that I'm attracted to him either. Whilst out with his friend she asked me about my boyfriend and his head shot up as if he was really interested to hear the answer. He never asks about my boyfriend, even when it seems natural in the conversation to do so.
- He's given me a lot of help in the past, career advice including looking through my CV. Things he didn't have to do.
What's your verdict?
a) Being a supportive colleague
b) Wants to be friends
c) Wants to be more than friends (sex)
d) Wants to be more than friends (relationship)
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