Hi there...
I have been divorced since November 2013. The ex-wife and I have split custody (50/50), and I pay her child support because our son is on her insurance and also because he goes to the after school program when school is in session and the summer program in the summer. However, she did make more money than I did.
A few days ago I lost my job. I did not get laid off, I made some unintentional mistakes and was consequently fired. I did not want to lose my job, I needed it. I was happy to pay the support, so long as it is being used for the purposes intended, even though she has yet to provide receipt of his school program fees.
I also might mention that she is likely getting financial support from her parents because she got in over her head and is renting a house that costs more than the one we had together, plus, she recently bought herself a new Lexus. Not only that, she is going to school (I am happy for her), so the numbers simply don't add up with what she is supposedly making at work.
Meanwhile, I am living with a roommate and I have to move in three months but I won't have a place to go now that I don't have the earnings I did before so I can't buy or probably even rent a house. My son will have drastically different standards of living when he goes from being with his mom to being with me. It breaks my heart and makes me feel like a failure.
I guess my question is this: should I try to petition the court to try and get my support payments temporarily reduced? I have no income right now. I am ALREADY looking for a new job a day after losing mine, so I want to be employed. I simply don't think I can make as much as I was at my last job... unless I get back to school... I took getting fired pretty well initially, but now I am starting to panic. I don't want my son to feel that.
Oh yeah, I also lost my insurance and I won't be able to sustain paying for my medications (for major depression, and I am in the middle of a very intense skin treatment program which requires frequent bloodwork / derm. visits and more meds). I can't just stop them...
I have been divorced since November 2013. The ex-wife and I have split custody (50/50), and I pay her child support because our son is on her insurance and also because he goes to the after school program when school is in session and the summer program in the summer. However, she did make more money than I did.
A few days ago I lost my job. I did not get laid off, I made some unintentional mistakes and was consequently fired. I did not want to lose my job, I needed it. I was happy to pay the support, so long as it is being used for the purposes intended, even though she has yet to provide receipt of his school program fees.
I also might mention that she is likely getting financial support from her parents because she got in over her head and is renting a house that costs more than the one we had together, plus, she recently bought herself a new Lexus. Not only that, she is going to school (I am happy for her), so the numbers simply don't add up with what she is supposedly making at work.
Meanwhile, I am living with a roommate and I have to move in three months but I won't have a place to go now that I don't have the earnings I did before so I can't buy or probably even rent a house. My son will have drastically different standards of living when he goes from being with his mom to being with me. It breaks my heart and makes me feel like a failure.
I guess my question is this: should I try to petition the court to try and get my support payments temporarily reduced? I have no income right now. I am ALREADY looking for a new job a day after losing mine, so I want to be employed. I simply don't think I can make as much as I was at my last job... unless I get back to school... I took getting fired pretty well initially, but now I am starting to panic. I don't want my son to feel that.
Oh yeah, I also lost my insurance and I won't be able to sustain paying for my medications (for major depression, and I am in the middle of a very intense skin treatment program which requires frequent bloodwork / derm. visits and more meds). I can't just stop them...
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