I have been thinking a lot about this lately and wanted your thoughts on something.
While I do understand other type of relationships such as homosexual couples get lots of hate, there is also a lot more understanding especially in certain areas. However, from my experience older woman/younger man relationships seem to me to be the most taboo. Older man/younger woman relationships certainly don't get the kind of hate to the extent OW/YM do.
What I mean by that is how many VERY annoying and even offensive questions I have been asked that get on my nerves. Now I can understand not being very common it's understandable that many would be curious, and honestly if they were nice about it I wouldn't mind answering, but so often when they do ask questions it has a mean or snarky tone behind it.
For example, one question that I have been asked a lot is "What could you possibly have in common?" Which again I wouldn't mind if they were to ask in a nice way and rephrase it more along the lines of "You're married to a younger man? That's interesting, what kinds of things do you have in common?"
But that's usually not how it goes.
And ironically, most of the ones asking and being rude are other women!
But we have TONS in common! We both love to hike, camp, play video games (my husband got me addicted to world of warcraft and dance dance revolution lol), we both love just sitting and having lots of mentally stimulating conversations, we also love to go out to concerts, just to name a few.
But the way people ask you'd think my husband had used a time machine and kidnapped me from 5th century BC!
True with me being 43 and him being 28 we have differences but instead of letting that be a hindrance we work together and even introduce things to each other that we wouldn't have had otherwise.
When my same-age ex husband found out about our relationship he kept saying all sorts of mean things like "He's a young guy, he won't stay with an old woman" and "He's just an young immature kid that doesn't know what he's getting into".
Funny, my husband is a million times more mature and successful than my ex ever was (he would always come up with some new "big idea" but fail at them, such as starting new business').
My point is that while, for the most part I think most wouldn't be so openly rude to gay or interracial or even older man/younger woman couples, when it comes to OW/YM couples it's still largely seen as okay to openly ridicule and make fun of.
I love this article: Vicki Larson: He's Younger, She's Older -- Can This Marriage Last?
Not for its content but in the comments there are quite a few OW/YM couples in there that have even larger age gaps than ours saying how happy they are.
I absolutely DETEST how demi/ashton became the poster couple for OW/YM relationships! Even before they got together it was plain as day they are both highly narcissistic entitled half-wits that was doomed to fail, but not because of the age gap which was put as the cause of ashton's cheating and demis bad behavior.
What's funny is same-age couple in hollywood cheat/divorce just about every damn day, and yet there are hollywood couples that have survived for many years.
Hugh Jackman has been married to the same woman that is 13 years older since 1996. Geena Davis has been married to a man 15 years younger since 2001. Aaron Taylor-Johnson has been married to a woman 24 years older since 2012. Julianne Moore has been married to a guy 10 years younger since 2003. Maxwell Caulfield has been married to a woman that is 18 years older since 1980!
Seriously, out of all these couples, ashton and demi got the spot light?? SERIOUSLY???
But I digress. I know OW/YM relationships are certainly in the minority, but they are out there and they deserve the same respect as any other type.
Even some of my close friends were negative about it, saying he'll just end up hurting me or leave me for a younger woman, most have came around but I had to ditch one long time friend because of it. We are a very happy couple!
Sorry if this is long, just something that's been on my mind lately.
While I do understand other type of relationships such as homosexual couples get lots of hate, there is also a lot more understanding especially in certain areas. However, from my experience older woman/younger man relationships seem to me to be the most taboo. Older man/younger woman relationships certainly don't get the kind of hate to the extent OW/YM do.
What I mean by that is how many VERY annoying and even offensive questions I have been asked that get on my nerves. Now I can understand not being very common it's understandable that many would be curious, and honestly if they were nice about it I wouldn't mind answering, but so often when they do ask questions it has a mean or snarky tone behind it.
For example, one question that I have been asked a lot is "What could you possibly have in common?" Which again I wouldn't mind if they were to ask in a nice way and rephrase it more along the lines of "You're married to a younger man? That's interesting, what kinds of things do you have in common?"
But that's usually not how it goes.
And ironically, most of the ones asking and being rude are other women!
But we have TONS in common! We both love to hike, camp, play video games (my husband got me addicted to world of warcraft and dance dance revolution lol), we both love just sitting and having lots of mentally stimulating conversations, we also love to go out to concerts, just to name a few.
But the way people ask you'd think my husband had used a time machine and kidnapped me from 5th century BC!
True with me being 43 and him being 28 we have differences but instead of letting that be a hindrance we work together and even introduce things to each other that we wouldn't have had otherwise.
When my same-age ex husband found out about our relationship he kept saying all sorts of mean things like "He's a young guy, he won't stay with an old woman" and "He's just an young immature kid that doesn't know what he's getting into".
Funny, my husband is a million times more mature and successful than my ex ever was (he would always come up with some new "big idea" but fail at them, such as starting new business').
My point is that while, for the most part I think most wouldn't be so openly rude to gay or interracial or even older man/younger woman couples, when it comes to OW/YM couples it's still largely seen as okay to openly ridicule and make fun of.
I love this article: Vicki Larson: He's Younger, She's Older -- Can This Marriage Last?
Not for its content but in the comments there are quite a few OW/YM couples in there that have even larger age gaps than ours saying how happy they are.
I absolutely DETEST how demi/ashton became the poster couple for OW/YM relationships! Even before they got together it was plain as day they are both highly narcissistic entitled half-wits that was doomed to fail, but not because of the age gap which was put as the cause of ashton's cheating and demis bad behavior.
What's funny is same-age couple in hollywood cheat/divorce just about every damn day, and yet there are hollywood couples that have survived for many years.
Hugh Jackman has been married to the same woman that is 13 years older since 1996. Geena Davis has been married to a man 15 years younger since 2001. Aaron Taylor-Johnson has been married to a woman 24 years older since 2012. Julianne Moore has been married to a guy 10 years younger since 2003. Maxwell Caulfield has been married to a woman that is 18 years older since 1980!
Seriously, out of all these couples, ashton and demi got the spot light?? SERIOUSLY???
But I digress. I know OW/YM relationships are certainly in the minority, but they are out there and they deserve the same respect as any other type.
Even some of my close friends were negative about it, saying he'll just end up hurting me or leave me for a younger woman, most have came around but I had to ditch one long time friend because of it. We are a very happy couple!
Sorry if this is long, just something that's been on my mind lately.
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