I am 22 and friends with this guy for about 2 years. He is 25, and cute in a kind of boyish way, he's in a band and those two factors combine to make him irresistible to women. In the time I've known him he's had a couple of more serious girlfriends but he cheated on them both. They were all part of the groupie druggie scene he is in. I know met him though my flatmate and we live just down the street from him.
When we first met he made a few attempts to get me into bed but I always rejected his advances. Instead we become really close friends, I don't drink or party really so I was someone he could hang out with and talk to when he wasn't wasted. He was still flirty with me at times and his girlfriends and the other women who wanted him resented my friendship with him even though nothing has ever happened between us.
He is single now and talking about "us" again. He wants us to give it a shot, says he loves me, always has and he is ready now for a serious relationship. I believe that he does mean what he says but I don't believe he can stick to it, not yet. If I'm honest I do love him very much, I've never been closer to anyone mentally or emotionally but I feel that if we get involved romantically and physically then it will only be a matter of time before he does his thing, I get hurt and our friendship is irrevocably damaged. I am cool with open relationships for those that want them but its not for me. I had a casual thing once with someone I didn't like anywhere near as much as him and it crushed me.
How do I tell him no without it hurting him or damaging our friendship?
When we first met he made a few attempts to get me into bed but I always rejected his advances. Instead we become really close friends, I don't drink or party really so I was someone he could hang out with and talk to when he wasn't wasted. He was still flirty with me at times and his girlfriends and the other women who wanted him resented my friendship with him even though nothing has ever happened between us.
He is single now and talking about "us" again. He wants us to give it a shot, says he loves me, always has and he is ready now for a serious relationship. I believe that he does mean what he says but I don't believe he can stick to it, not yet. If I'm honest I do love him very much, I've never been closer to anyone mentally or emotionally but I feel that if we get involved romantically and physically then it will only be a matter of time before he does his thing, I get hurt and our friendship is irrevocably damaged. I am cool with open relationships for those that want them but its not for me. I had a casual thing once with someone I didn't like anywhere near as much as him and it crushed me.
How do I tell him no without it hurting him or damaging our friendship?
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